mrscatinthehat
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difficult child 2 has had the civil commitment hearing we have been waiting for. Now it is time to wait for the judge to make his decision. This has been such a long road.
We spent the last two days in the courtroom listening to so many things I would like to forget. I never will forget but I certainly would like to. The case is a precident setting one. Not only is it the first of its kind in our state it is the first in the nation. I can say without a shadow of a doubt I don't like uniqueness. If we heard once over the years we heard a thousand times we have never had a case like yours before. We had places tell us they learned from us and other parents won't have to go through the things we did because they know more now. Though I am grateful to know that at least some good may come from all of this it is horrible that we had to be the ones that set so many things in motion.
Today I think most of the juvinile court officers from all around were there. Some we had never met.
I have a lot of respect for the attorney's that handled the case. Both the assistant state attorney and the defense attorney (from the state public defenders office of major cases) did an exceptional job. I can't fault either one for their professionalism in everything we saw.
The state's expert witness was yesterday ans she was very knowledgeable and I liked her very much. The defense expert today on the other hand almost gave me a difficult child moment in court. I did remain seated and only jabbed husband with my fingernails a couple of times. However if anyone could read the sign language I was using (I know the alphabet) they better never repeat what I was signing to myself. I know that sounds strange but it was the way I could yell and not get in trouble for it.
The jerk today went so far as to try and say difficult child 2 was autistic. Now those of you that have encountered me and my posts over the years know that autism would not have slipped my radar. In fact I had checked out all the possibilities in the early days but it just really doesn't fit. This nimrod "diagnosed" difficult child 2 with autism from reading reports and a one hours session and a three hour session. Then in court he made several illusions to husband and I not being very good parents. That we basically abandoned difficult child 2 to the system because we wouldn't care for him. That was the deal breaker for my blood pressure. I looked at husband and indicated that when we broke for lunch that he had better step out of the way because I was not taking my time leaving.
difficult child 2 actually was saying to me before he ever saw me not to go crazy. He knew I would be ****** with this man's comments. He sent his lawyer after me ( he didn't catch me because let's face it when a warrior mom needs to flee she grows wings and gets the heck out of dodge). Now does that even remotely sound autistic? I think not. But what do I know. Oh yeah a heck of a lot because I have invested what feels like three lifetimes going through all of the ups and downs of a difficult child life.
Anyway, the judge said that he is retiring at the end of March so we will have an answer before that. One more holding pattern. No control. I have let go of the things I can't control but this is pretty major and I hope to heck the right decision is made.
Thanks for listening (reading).
Beth
We spent the last two days in the courtroom listening to so many things I would like to forget. I never will forget but I certainly would like to. The case is a precident setting one. Not only is it the first of its kind in our state it is the first in the nation. I can say without a shadow of a doubt I don't like uniqueness. If we heard once over the years we heard a thousand times we have never had a case like yours before. We had places tell us they learned from us and other parents won't have to go through the things we did because they know more now. Though I am grateful to know that at least some good may come from all of this it is horrible that we had to be the ones that set so many things in motion.
Today I think most of the juvinile court officers from all around were there. Some we had never met.
I have a lot of respect for the attorney's that handled the case. Both the assistant state attorney and the defense attorney (from the state public defenders office of major cases) did an exceptional job. I can't fault either one for their professionalism in everything we saw.
The state's expert witness was yesterday ans she was very knowledgeable and I liked her very much. The defense expert today on the other hand almost gave me a difficult child moment in court. I did remain seated and only jabbed husband with my fingernails a couple of times. However if anyone could read the sign language I was using (I know the alphabet) they better never repeat what I was signing to myself. I know that sounds strange but it was the way I could yell and not get in trouble for it.
The jerk today went so far as to try and say difficult child 2 was autistic. Now those of you that have encountered me and my posts over the years know that autism would not have slipped my radar. In fact I had checked out all the possibilities in the early days but it just really doesn't fit. This nimrod "diagnosed" difficult child 2 with autism from reading reports and a one hours session and a three hour session. Then in court he made several illusions to husband and I not being very good parents. That we basically abandoned difficult child 2 to the system because we wouldn't care for him. That was the deal breaker for my blood pressure. I looked at husband and indicated that when we broke for lunch that he had better step out of the way because I was not taking my time leaving.
difficult child 2 actually was saying to me before he ever saw me not to go crazy. He knew I would be ****** with this man's comments. He sent his lawyer after me ( he didn't catch me because let's face it when a warrior mom needs to flee she grows wings and gets the heck out of dodge). Now does that even remotely sound autistic? I think not. But what do I know. Oh yeah a heck of a lot because I have invested what feels like three lifetimes going through all of the ups and downs of a difficult child life.
Anyway, the judge said that he is retiring at the end of March so we will have an answer before that. One more holding pattern. No control. I have let go of the things I can't control but this is pretty major and I hope to heck the right decision is made.
Thanks for listening (reading).
Beth
