Jabberwockey
Well-Known Member
Ah! Fitting.
Unfortunately so, my d c's think they are just fine with their dabbling and addictions.......finally realized the only person I could change, was myself.....Ah! Fitting.
Without a doubt. It's actually a good thing that this happened. You have sent him a clear message that he cannot live with you and he knows you mean it.Gee, really? Do you think he was 100% counting on us to cave and to take him back in?
No, it's not sad that you felt relief, it's very normal and it's the truth.Is it sad that I actually felt relief when he said he was going back?
Good for you MTD!! I hope you have a wonderful time.Heading to a holiday party tonight, so putting this all out of my head.
I'm with you mtdenise. I'd be insane with you. But by detaching from these DCs and observing from a distance, it is finally a relief that it's "not my problem" as you said.How does one live this flippin' way? No plans, no job, no money. Would drive me insane.
Not sad at all ! It shows you are progressing well in detaching with wisdom. With my own son, I don't know where he is or what he's doing, and it is really more of a relief not to know. I like to think no news is good news. I did see him for 5 minutes last week as he came unexpectedly to the yard to grab something from his storage shed. (Actually, I was surprised I did feel a relief to see him, simply because I did not even know if he was alive as I had not seen nor heard the past weeks.) Surprisingly, he gave me a quick hug as he rushed off, and said "call me sometimes, mom." I kept quiet, but thought to myself "no, I really don't want to call you, what for? I really don't want to know anything." He's so uncommunicative, that if I did call it would be like a one way interrogation ( same old... same old....) so no thank you. (Of course he never calls us.)Is it sad that I actually felt relief when he said he was going back?
I'm with you again on this one also. This board saves me each time I come here everyday and learn something new I need to hear and know. I've been able to use so many suggestions and responses learned here to stay strong and unemotional and detached. I am so glad to hear you say you are putting it all out of your head. Your good report helps to build us all up.Thanks to this board, I was able to give some good responses to him but not try to solve his problems as I would have in the past.