So 3 1/2 years after he walked out, I finally found my "round tuit" and filed for divorce. I had filed all my paper, but husband had only filed a very lame answer that was actually accepted by the court ans an answer, so my dreams of a default went out the window. Anyway, when you file for divorce, the court issues a standing order against the removal of minor children from the state without written consent of both parents or the court. I was smart enough to go straight to the court for that permission. Today was the hearing, and I was surprised they let husband "appear" via phone. When the General Magistrate (GM) asked husband if he had any objections to the family vacation, husband said YES! I was so not surprised. What did surprise me was that husband continued to say that for the past 4 years he was allowed NO contact with the kids. (EXCUSE ME??????? Last year when we went on vacation, I contacted HIM and arranged for a visit as we passed through his state even though it was a 5 hour detour driving and added another day and hotel stay for us. I even arranged for a visit on the way back, too.) Well, the GM got on his case about it so I bit my tongue not to engage in the whole discussion. GM is allowing vacation! YAY! So, I was going to contact husband tonight to see if he wanted to see the kids, but that was BEFORE I knew he'd be at the hearing. But I still have two choices. Initiate the contact and allow the visit (it would be in a public place, so the issue I have with extended visits is a non issue) OR wait and see if he request a visit since he's had our itinerary for two weeks now. Still has not contacted me personally yet. Opinions?