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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 173506" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Nope. We're to ignore as much negative stuff as is "safe" and "socially acceptable", to which I laughed because we are neither "safe" nor "socially acceptable" now, and we've been doing A, B, C baskets, which is, essentially, ignoring anything that isn't in the basket you're working on. I explained this, but...as I'm sure you've all had to do, she has to see it herself to beleive it.</p><p> </p><p>We are to express as little negative as positive. The one and only thing she corrected me on during her visit was telling difficult child, when he was talking to me in babytalk that I couldn't understand, that I didn't like baby talk. I'm not to say that anymore - I am to say "I can't hear babytalk."</p><p> </p><p>If he gets aggressive, we are to ignore it until he ups the ante and its a safety issue. If the safety in question is our own, we are to remove ourselves, pretending the reason to do so is our own idea, and has nothing to do with his behavior. Other than to say when he hits us "that hurts".</p><p> </p><p>I think its bogus, but I'm running out of options. When we ignore without attempting to redirect, he generally escalates, and ups the ante til you can't ignore him. Maybe it will be different this time. I'm doubting it, but she's gonna have to see that herself.</p><p> </p><p>He escalated things again today at school, and his teacher just pulled him out of the classroom and asked him to help her work in the office. It went fine and prevented any big issues. I plan to pick him up early for the next several days, as his issues are happening in the afternoon, mostly. Hopefully break the cycle/habit.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 173506, member: 1848"] Nope. We're to ignore as much negative stuff as is "safe" and "socially acceptable", to which I laughed because we are neither "safe" nor "socially acceptable" now, and we've been doing A, B, C baskets, which is, essentially, ignoring anything that isn't in the basket you're working on. I explained this, but...as I'm sure you've all had to do, she has to see it herself to beleive it. We are to express as little negative as positive. The one and only thing she corrected me on during her visit was telling difficult child, when he was talking to me in babytalk that I couldn't understand, that I didn't like baby talk. I'm not to say that anymore - I am to say "I can't hear babytalk." If he gets aggressive, we are to ignore it until he ups the ante and its a safety issue. If the safety in question is our own, we are to remove ourselves, pretending the reason to do so is our own idea, and has nothing to do with his behavior. Other than to say when he hits us "that hurts". I think its bogus, but I'm running out of options. When we ignore without attempting to redirect, he generally escalates, and ups the ante til you can't ignore him. Maybe it will be different this time. I'm doubting it, but she's gonna have to see that herself. He escalated things again today at school, and his teacher just pulled him out of the classroom and asked him to help her work in the office. It went fine and prevented any big issues. I plan to pick him up early for the next several days, as his issues are happening in the afternoon, mostly. Hopefully break the cycle/habit. [/QUOTE]
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