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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 561513"><p>I am thankful for this forum and for all of you. We need and deserve a soft place to fall and friends who listen, share and support.</p><p></p><p>Al-anon has been a lifeline to me. Through its teachings, I understand my serenity depends only upon MY actions. difficult child cannot take it, only I can give it away. I'm not perfect at it but, am getting better all the time.</p><p></p><p>When I was trying to get pregnant with difficult child, I told God I knew any child He sent me would always belong to Him but would be entrusted to me to raise. I think God is holding me to that promise.</p><p></p><p>So...if difficult child wants to be stupid, me coming along for the ride helps no one. I'm trying to stay as far out of it as possible. I have his Facebook feed hidden, friends know it and will alert me if there is a post I need to act upon. My cell stays quiet if he calls or texts ... Now I don't jump when the phone rings. He can get through, but I only see it when I pick up my phone. I'm trying hard to only contact him every few days and to keep it light. Hard? Yes but then I remember 'don't dial pain' and I put the phone down.</p><p></p><p>Interesting that more activities and friends have found their way into my life since difficult child went to rehab. As a divorced woman without much family (who aren't addicts), I was afraid I would be lonely at ths stage. Sure, that happens sometimes, but all in all it has been much better than I could have dreamed.</p><p></p><p>NONE of this means I don't love my son with all my heart. I do. I also love myself. I figure I am much better off detaching in love and trying to live my life than anything else I can imagine.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 561513"] I am thankful for this forum and for all of you. We need and deserve a soft place to fall and friends who listen, share and support. Al-anon has been a lifeline to me. Through its teachings, I understand my serenity depends only upon MY actions. difficult child cannot take it, only I can give it away. I'm not perfect at it but, am getting better all the time. When I was trying to get pregnant with difficult child, I told God I knew any child He sent me would always belong to Him but would be entrusted to me to raise. I think God is holding me to that promise. So...if difficult child wants to be stupid, me coming along for the ride helps no one. I'm trying to stay as far out of it as possible. I have his Facebook feed hidden, friends know it and will alert me if there is a post I need to act upon. My cell stays quiet if he calls or texts ... Now I don't jump when the phone rings. He can get through, but I only see it when I pick up my phone. I'm trying hard to only contact him every few days and to keep it light. Hard? Yes but then I remember 'don't dial pain' and I put the phone down. Interesting that more activities and friends have found their way into my life since difficult child went to rehab. As a divorced woman without much family (who aren't addicts), I was afraid I would be lonely at ths stage. Sure, that happens sometimes, but all in all it has been much better than I could have dreamed. NONE of this means I don't love my son with all my heart. I do. I also love myself. I figure I am much better off detaching in love and trying to live my life than anything else I can imagine. [/QUOTE]
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