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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 363605" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry things are so awful. I totally understand your feelings. been there done that. Even with the fear of what will happen to the younger kids as they grow up just seeing what the difficult child does.</p><p></p><p>Call the police if he is violent. Make a plan, TODAY, with what you will do the next time he explodes. Do you take the baby and leave? Call and have the police take him in? What does your husband think should be done?</p><p></p><p>When was he last fully evaluated by the psychiatrist, neuropsychologist, etc...? With the history of his father's mental illness in mind, is your son starting to show schizophrenic signs? From what I remember, symptoms can start anywhere from the teens to mid twenties, though I might be wrong. </p><p></p><p>Going to therapy is an excellent idea. IF it stresses more than just you learning to be patient with his garbage. If a therapist is telling you that you just have to be more patient with all his garbage RUN AWAY. Don't walk. RUN. Therapy needs to stress establishing healthy boundaries and relationships.</p><p></p><p>As violent as your difficult child sounds, even if it is only emotional or verbal violence, you should go to a domestic violence center for therapy. I spent quite a while in therapy at our DV center after I insisted my oldest not live here again. It took 6 months before I could look at a photo of him with-o wanting to cry. It was esp tough because our youngest son looks EXACTLY like difficult child did at the same age. They helped immensely. Let me cry, rant, get the pain out. Look at what led up to it, and understand that I truly had done way more than could be expected of anyone.</p><p></p><p>Come here often. For support, ideas, hugs, help, friendship, and true understanding. This is the one place where others truly have gone through it, truly are in the same boat, and truly care without judging you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 363605, member: 1233"] {{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}} I am so sorry things are so awful. I totally understand your feelings. been there done that. Even with the fear of what will happen to the younger kids as they grow up just seeing what the difficult child does. Call the police if he is violent. Make a plan, TODAY, with what you will do the next time he explodes. Do you take the baby and leave? Call and have the police take him in? What does your husband think should be done? When was he last fully evaluated by the psychiatrist, neuropsychologist, etc...? With the history of his father's mental illness in mind, is your son starting to show schizophrenic signs? From what I remember, symptoms can start anywhere from the teens to mid twenties, though I might be wrong. Going to therapy is an excellent idea. IF it stresses more than just you learning to be patient with his garbage. If a therapist is telling you that you just have to be more patient with all his garbage RUN AWAY. Don't walk. RUN. Therapy needs to stress establishing healthy boundaries and relationships. As violent as your difficult child sounds, even if it is only emotional or verbal violence, you should go to a domestic violence center for therapy. I spent quite a while in therapy at our DV center after I insisted my oldest not live here again. It took 6 months before I could look at a photo of him with-o wanting to cry. It was esp tough because our youngest son looks EXACTLY like difficult child did at the same age. They helped immensely. Let me cry, rant, get the pain out. Look at what led up to it, and understand that I truly had done way more than could be expected of anyone. Come here often. For support, ideas, hugs, help, friendship, and true understanding. This is the one place where others truly have gone through it, truly are in the same boat, and truly care without judging you. [/QUOTE]
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