tweedles on July 5th. Another birthday apart. I have already planned the "celebration" for kt. She's asked for a Culver's ice cream cake & a new bike (which she really needs). She'd like ribs for her birthday dinner & a movie outing. We can do that. wm is another story. It's becoming more difficult to plan holidays & bdays as a family of different addresses. wm feels left out & like a second rate citizen. wm wants only video games & therapeutically that's out. husband & I would like to get wm a new bike (he needs one as well) but he doesn't have any out of yard priviledges. His lack of impulse control doesn't make him safe to go out in the community with-o a constant one on one safe. Foster mum asked us to wait a year for a new bike. So I'm thinking of getting my little explorer wm a metal detector. I haven't gotten foster mum's approval (I want to follow her rules), yet I see this as a good fit for wm & his curiosity. As to the "celebration" husband & I are working out the logistics ~ it's proving more difficult this year for some reason. Their birthday falls on a holiday weekend; I know that kt won't have respite that weekend (which would help considerably). I know that after kt & wm's last visit together & it's almost 7 month impact that we cannot even consider a birthday visit. It's detrimental to them both. So it seems that husband will visit wm on his birthday (after our kt celebration) & I will go out the day after. Foster mum always has a cake for the kids on their bdays so wm will not miss out on his birthday. I just won't be there to see him blow out the candles. Sigh. Another year gone by......such a difference. kt making so many positive strides, wm stuck. Maybe next year.