donna723
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You all will just have to excuse me ... I don't do this very often but I just couldn't resist this one! My daughter sent me some new pictures this morning. This is my only grandchild and I am his only grandparent and I get to show him off!
http://s170.photobucket.com/albums/...Summer 2012/?action=view¤t=DSC_0415.jpg
This is Ethan, my three year old grandson, in what is probably my all-time favorite pictures of him! In this picture they're at a place called Patriots Point in Charleston, SC where they live and he's on an aircraft carrier looking through some kind of observation thing. I can't tell if he is deep in thought here or if he's just hot and sweaty and bored and he's pouting! But either way, I just love this picture of him and plan to frame it!
But now there are times when I look at these pictures of him and just want to cry! After eight years of what seemed to be the perfect marriage, his parents are getting a divorce! Everything appeared to be fine when we were there at Christmas and my daughter thought everything was the same as always, then suddenly sister in law told her that he didn't want to be married any more! He refused any kind of counseling, said it wouldn't do any good. sister in law got an apartment but moved his things out a few at a time, after Ethan went to bed. Ethan was so used to his daddy working nights as a cop and not seeing him for sometimes a week at a time, he didn't even seem to notice when he wasn't staying there any more! So far, he hasn't even asked! He still sees him and goes places with him a couple times a week. They have filed for divorce and the house will go up for sale after they have a little work done on it, but thankfully they don't seem to be in much of a hurry. When the house sells, A and Ethan will move back to Orlando and sister in law will remain in Charleston. They have agreed that A will have Ethan during the school year and that he will spend summer vacations and every other Christmas in Charleston with his dad, although I have no idea how she will do without him for that long. Ethan is just barely three. He's used to his dad being gone and turns to his mom for everything! He's just too little to be away from his mama for that long and would be crying for her after the first hour!
This whole thing just breaks my heart! I always thought their marriage was as solid as a marriage could be and so did she, but apparently not. And I always looked at Ethan and smiled because he seemed to be such a "charmed" little boy! He's beautiful and he's bright and he's healthy and happy and seemed to have everything going for him. He had two parents who loved him to distraction, who always made him the top priority, who are raising him well with a lot of good ol' common sense and not spoiling him and who seemed to have a rock solid marriage. And now he will be one of those little "statistics" kids who will only have one parent at a time and is shuttled between them twice a year. It's just all so sad! His whole perfect little life is going to be turned upside down and none of it is his fault. And at just-turned-three, who knows how much of it he will understand! I guess he's certainly not the only one but I just never thought my little guy (or his mom!) would ever have to go through that! And there's not one darned thing I can do about it, which makes me so mad!
I keep thinking though, as little as he is now, he may not ever remember his parents actually being married and all of them living together in the same house!
http://s170.photobucket.com/albums/...Summer 2012/?action=view¤t=DSC_0415.jpg
This is Ethan, my three year old grandson, in what is probably my all-time favorite pictures of him! In this picture they're at a place called Patriots Point in Charleston, SC where they live and he's on an aircraft carrier looking through some kind of observation thing. I can't tell if he is deep in thought here or if he's just hot and sweaty and bored and he's pouting! But either way, I just love this picture of him and plan to frame it!
But now there are times when I look at these pictures of him and just want to cry! After eight years of what seemed to be the perfect marriage, his parents are getting a divorce! Everything appeared to be fine when we were there at Christmas and my daughter thought everything was the same as always, then suddenly sister in law told her that he didn't want to be married any more! He refused any kind of counseling, said it wouldn't do any good. sister in law got an apartment but moved his things out a few at a time, after Ethan went to bed. Ethan was so used to his daddy working nights as a cop and not seeing him for sometimes a week at a time, he didn't even seem to notice when he wasn't staying there any more! So far, he hasn't even asked! He still sees him and goes places with him a couple times a week. They have filed for divorce and the house will go up for sale after they have a little work done on it, but thankfully they don't seem to be in much of a hurry. When the house sells, A and Ethan will move back to Orlando and sister in law will remain in Charleston. They have agreed that A will have Ethan during the school year and that he will spend summer vacations and every other Christmas in Charleston with his dad, although I have no idea how she will do without him for that long. Ethan is just barely three. He's used to his dad being gone and turns to his mom for everything! He's just too little to be away from his mama for that long and would be crying for her after the first hour!
This whole thing just breaks my heart! I always thought their marriage was as solid as a marriage could be and so did she, but apparently not. And I always looked at Ethan and smiled because he seemed to be such a "charmed" little boy! He's beautiful and he's bright and he's healthy and happy and seemed to have everything going for him. He had two parents who loved him to distraction, who always made him the top priority, who are raising him well with a lot of good ol' common sense and not spoiling him and who seemed to have a rock solid marriage. And now he will be one of those little "statistics" kids who will only have one parent at a time and is shuttled between them twice a year. It's just all so sad! His whole perfect little life is going to be turned upside down and none of it is his fault. And at just-turned-three, who knows how much of it he will understand! I guess he's certainly not the only one but I just never thought my little guy (or his mom!) would ever have to go through that! And there's not one darned thing I can do about it, which makes me so mad!
I keep thinking though, as little as he is now, he may not ever remember his parents actually being married and all of them living together in the same house!
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