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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 617122" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p><em>"On the water, near the mountains, releasing your granddaughter into the future you all have prepared, your own freedom with SO just over the horizon! And of more value even than these wonderful things...you are really present. Finally, really, undeniably, present in your own life and for your own sake."</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Oh Cedar, thank you for that, I hadn't looked at it quite like that and I love the idea of releasing my little granddaughter into the future we prepared............that line really warmed my heart in a fierce and lovely way. Seeing her smiling from ear to ear yesterday planning her future with her bestie..........wow. </p><p></p><p>I have changed so much with my granddaughter as a result of the changes with my daughter.......a mere month or so ago I was wringing my hands, worrying about her future and how so much of it was on my plate, emotionally and financially. And, as I progressed, I saw some of the old patterns at play and stopped it, talked to granddaughter and let go. I am still doing that even as we are here..............it is a PRACTICE for sure. When confronted with a young face looking to me to give her something, I have a momentary lapse in judgement..............feel that old resentment, weirdness, spend a moment in the fog and usually it is SO who will pull me out with a remark as simple as "why are you thinking this is YOUR responsibility?" Oh. I forgot. It isn't my responsibility. And, then I can let go. </p><p></p><p>Today we are looking at apartments............so funny because the girls have this image in their heads to be living a lifestyle like the Kardashians...............they are still young enough to NOT really know the realities of finances...........and we are in that same territory where the Kardashians hang..............so I will be spending the day giving reality checks on that!! Sigh. Sometimes this stuff is WORK. But the truth is I feel so much better when I am honest about what I can do and what I can't, what I am willing to do and what I am not. Wish me luck!! These two kids can turn into attorneys and argue a loop hole until your eyes roll back in your heads...........sometimes I look at that as they are sharpening my tools to be able to set boundaries and be real.............before we encounter the new ground we need to stand on with her, SO always says, "we need to gird our loins and then double team her." I will soon turn into a Master at this!!</p><p></p><p><em>"to accept is the actual self that we are here and now, in the ordinary, sometimes grubby, often painful day we are blessed to be alive in."</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>I love all the quotes, they really fit our journey. Thank you. Acceptance of what is, is the key, I believe, not denying it, not making believe it is different then what it is, not disguising it with a whole new self,...........but this is where I am right now...........and I can deal with it...........I trust myself to know what to do. It sounds so simple and yet, I have found, it is the journey of one's life. </p><p></p><p>Well, off we go.............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 617122, member: 13542"] [I]"On the water, near the mountains, releasing your granddaughter into the future you all have prepared, your own freedom with SO just over the horizon! And of more value even than these wonderful things...you are really present. Finally, really, undeniably, present in your own life and for your own sake." [/I] Oh Cedar, thank you for that, I hadn't looked at it quite like that and I love the idea of releasing my little granddaughter into the future we prepared............that line really warmed my heart in a fierce and lovely way. Seeing her smiling from ear to ear yesterday planning her future with her bestie..........wow. I have changed so much with my granddaughter as a result of the changes with my daughter.......a mere month or so ago I was wringing my hands, worrying about her future and how so much of it was on my plate, emotionally and financially. And, as I progressed, I saw some of the old patterns at play and stopped it, talked to granddaughter and let go. I am still doing that even as we are here..............it is a PRACTICE for sure. When confronted with a young face looking to me to give her something, I have a momentary lapse in judgement..............feel that old resentment, weirdness, spend a moment in the fog and usually it is SO who will pull me out with a remark as simple as "why are you thinking this is YOUR responsibility?" Oh. I forgot. It isn't my responsibility. And, then I can let go. Today we are looking at apartments............so funny because the girls have this image in their heads to be living a lifestyle like the Kardashians...............they are still young enough to NOT really know the realities of finances...........and we are in that same territory where the Kardashians hang..............so I will be spending the day giving reality checks on that!! Sigh. Sometimes this stuff is WORK. But the truth is I feel so much better when I am honest about what I can do and what I can't, what I am willing to do and what I am not. Wish me luck!! These two kids can turn into attorneys and argue a loop hole until your eyes roll back in your heads...........sometimes I look at that as they are sharpening my tools to be able to set boundaries and be real.............before we encounter the new ground we need to stand on with her, SO always says, "we need to gird our loins and then double team her." I will soon turn into a Master at this!! [I]"to accept is the actual self that we are here and now, in the ordinary, sometimes grubby, often painful day we are blessed to be alive in." [/I] I love all the quotes, they really fit our journey. Thank you. Acceptance of what is, is the key, I believe, not denying it, not making believe it is different then what it is, not disguising it with a whole new self,...........but this is where I am right now...........and I can deal with it...........I trust myself to know what to do. It sounds so simple and yet, I have found, it is the journey of one's life. Well, off we go............. [/QUOTE]
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