A few months back, a psychiatrist diagnosed J as ADHD in a letter to the other psychiatrist we see. I saw the second psychiatrist this morning with J and asked her whether she also confirmed ADHD. She said yes, she supposed so, but it was a very mild degree of ADHD. She said there were 8 points difference between my Connors questionnaire and that of the teacher (don't know what that means) and that that was a lot - though we agreed that the previous teacher's cynicism about the existence of ADHD might have played a role. J while in her office wasn't clambering all over the place but mainly playing quietly with the toys, and also her stethoscope, listening to his heart beat, which she didn't seem to mind... She says she would not think of prescribing any medications at this time but that we should see how things evolve for J in future. I think of the first time he went to see this psychiatrist in her office... he was manic, rushing everywhere, touching everything, playing with the blinds, jumping off a high step... I presume the difference is anxiety. When a situation is new, he gets anxious and becomes hyper hyperactive? So the psychiatrist's assessment seems to fit in with my own for the moment. J is a very challenging child who displays hyperactivity and impulsivity but we do not feel the degree to which he cannot function in life justifies the taking of stimulants with their side effects. She said that in any case medications would not take away his oppositionality and I would still have to struggle with that. I guess there is something helpful in people just knowing about J and how he is even if nothing specific is going to happen for the moment in terms of treatment... She stressed that if ever there is any problem at school or the teacher, I should ring her and she will speak to the teacher.