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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 378065" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Susie I truly believe my difficult child has that gene. I also believe that the interest will never go away. From all the lectures we have sat in at the center we have learned that they all still have that interest and if they saw a glass of wine or beer or drug of choice in front of them it would be a struggle. That is why they focus so much on what their line of defense will be when they get out. I believe my difficult child has that wiring that akes her crave alochol/drugs/sex/risky behavior. The program she is in makes her address those issues and that is why they put so much emphasis on step 4. I have also learned that relapse is a part of recovery for most and that is why it is important to have a strong support system. For your brother to go back to sobriety after each relapse says a lot about him and I wish him well. They told us not to concentrate on the years of sobriety lost when they relapse but on the days of sobriety from that day forward. Thanks for sharing.</p><p></p><p>klmno they do put a lot of emphasis on step for for the reasons you describe and that is why they want them to do that step before they leave, and the others can be done during their home recovery period. I may have the 90 in 90 incorrect. It may be that she is required to do 90 in 90 from the time she got there, so when she gets out she will have done 60 and have 30 to go. She has highlighted all the meetings that are near us so she can find her home group as soon as possible. She needs to find a sponsor too, and that will be crucial for her. If it's someone she clicks with that will help a lot.</p><p></p><p>Also for our difficult child the alcohol was not her main problem. From all the years I have been here you know her problems began long before she ever took her first drink. Those issues need to be dealt with and they are trying to do that in treatment but for her the issues run so deep I am not sure that is possible. She has been through years of therapy and certainly none of them could stop the course she is on now. I belueve she was born with so much baggage that it will take many years of treatment to identify them let alonbe work to resolve them. That is why our hope is so tentative. She can stop drinking now but unless she address the issues she has that will not change anything.</p><p></p><p>Don't apologize for your posts, the information is so helpful.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 378065, member: 59"] Susie I truly believe my difficult child has that gene. I also believe that the interest will never go away. From all the lectures we have sat in at the center we have learned that they all still have that interest and if they saw a glass of wine or beer or drug of choice in front of them it would be a struggle. That is why they focus so much on what their line of defense will be when they get out. I believe my difficult child has that wiring that akes her crave alochol/drugs/sex/risky behavior. The program she is in makes her address those issues and that is why they put so much emphasis on step 4. I have also learned that relapse is a part of recovery for most and that is why it is important to have a strong support system. For your brother to go back to sobriety after each relapse says a lot about him and I wish him well. They told us not to concentrate on the years of sobriety lost when they relapse but on the days of sobriety from that day forward. Thanks for sharing. klmno they do put a lot of emphasis on step for for the reasons you describe and that is why they want them to do that step before they leave, and the others can be done during their home recovery period. I may have the 90 in 90 incorrect. It may be that she is required to do 90 in 90 from the time she got there, so when she gets out she will have done 60 and have 30 to go. She has highlighted all the meetings that are near us so she can find her home group as soon as possible. She needs to find a sponsor too, and that will be crucial for her. If it's someone she clicks with that will help a lot. Also for our difficult child the alcohol was not her main problem. From all the years I have been here you know her problems began long before she ever took her first drink. Those issues need to be dealt with and they are trying to do that in treatment but for her the issues run so deep I am not sure that is possible. She has been through years of therapy and certainly none of them could stop the course she is on now. I belueve she was born with so much baggage that it will take many years of treatment to identify them let alonbe work to resolve them. That is why our hope is so tentative. She can stop drinking now but unless she address the issues she has that will not change anything. Don't apologize for your posts, the information is so helpful. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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