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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 79907" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I've been to many funerals, all as a child. They did not traumatize me but they weren't a lot of fun. However, I refuse to go to them as an adult. I've seen death close up. I understand death, I've usually said good-bye before they have died. As was said, funerals are for the living.</p><p></p><p>That being said, I do believe if a child is close to someone, it is appropriate and important to allow the child to say good-bye. Sometimes that finality is needed. If not close to the deceased, then I think it is up in the air. </p><p></p><p>My grandfather died when I was around three. I'd never met him. My father went to his funeral. My mother stayed home with my brother and me. Oddly, to this day I feel I missed something. I never knew him but he was my grandfather! I wished I could have at least said good-bye since I'd never been able to say hello. I don't think I belonged at the funeral or the wake (even though our family wakes are Irish fun) but I think I should have been allowed a few moments with him.</p><p></p><p>You know your kids best. Do what you think is right for them, not what others tell you you should do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 79907, member: 3626"] I've been to many funerals, all as a child. They did not traumatize me but they weren't a lot of fun. However, I refuse to go to them as an adult. I've seen death close up. I understand death, I've usually said good-bye before they have died. As was said, funerals are for the living. That being said, I do believe if a child is close to someone, it is appropriate and important to allow the child to say good-bye. Sometimes that finality is needed. If not close to the deceased, then I think it is up in the air. My grandfather died when I was around three. I'd never met him. My father went to his funeral. My mother stayed home with my brother and me. Oddly, to this day I feel I missed something. I never knew him but he was my grandfather! I wished I could have at least said good-bye since I'd never been able to say hello. I don't think I belonged at the funeral or the wake (even though our family wakes are Irish fun) but I think I should have been allowed a few moments with him. You know your kids best. Do what you think is right for them, not what others tell you you should do. [/QUOTE]
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