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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 406740" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It sounds a bit like the problems I have been having with a local church-based committee. I've worked on these committees for over 15 years before we stopped in 2001 (thanks to post 9/11 insurance issues) and because this one woman got things started up again (she was never involved before - has no idea how to do it right), she has felt she 'owned' it all, when in fact all decisions have to be consensus. And any time someone disagrees with her, she sees it as a personal attack and then sends emails around saying we need to rise above our petty squabbles and be kind to one another (when nobody has been squabbling but her). Her last email was telling us to stop gossiping, when in fact SHE was the only one to tell tales. And they were not true tales, either. I'm just about done with her, but when I tried to walk away and resign, she never passed on the news of my resignation, she merely logged me in the minutes as sending my apologies for three months! So I am still stuck trying to clear the mess, and my name. And this time I won't walk away until it is sorted. Part of sorting it for me is calling it like it is, in writing, and then if I don't get consensus on the problems (ie if people respond to her by placating her as usual) then I WILL walk away.</p><p></p><p>Again - I'm also dealing with a person who came from a dysfunctional background. She plays the 'hurt' card a lot, it gets her out of trouble. Just when the group is coming to a majority decision, she pouts and carries on with "you're making this personal, it's because you don't like me," and people end up giving in to her out of pity. Not any more! I've had it.</p><p></p><p>The trouble is, people get into bad habits in childhood, and if they are never challenged, they keep doing it in adulthood. And they do collateral damage. </p><p></p><p>I've realised through this process that I am a lot less tolerant, a lot less patient than I was a year ago. </p><p></p><p>Our next meeting is supposed to be in the next week or so but I don't think it is happening. I am going to push for a meeting in the next few weeks if nothing happens soon.</p><p></p><p>The problem is - certain dysfunctional types often work their way to positions of responsibility. And when they do, their capacity to hurt people and businesses greatly increases. They are able to do a lot more damage, and especially if they are in CYA mode, a lot more people get hurt. But eventually truth will out, the axe will fall and they will get theirs.</p><p></p><p>Any news about that job ad you saw?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 406740, member: 1991"] It sounds a bit like the problems I have been having with a local church-based committee. I've worked on these committees for over 15 years before we stopped in 2001 (thanks to post 9/11 insurance issues) and because this one woman got things started up again (she was never involved before - has no idea how to do it right), she has felt she 'owned' it all, when in fact all decisions have to be consensus. And any time someone disagrees with her, she sees it as a personal attack and then sends emails around saying we need to rise above our petty squabbles and be kind to one another (when nobody has been squabbling but her). Her last email was telling us to stop gossiping, when in fact SHE was the only one to tell tales. And they were not true tales, either. I'm just about done with her, but when I tried to walk away and resign, she never passed on the news of my resignation, she merely logged me in the minutes as sending my apologies for three months! So I am still stuck trying to clear the mess, and my name. And this time I won't walk away until it is sorted. Part of sorting it for me is calling it like it is, in writing, and then if I don't get consensus on the problems (ie if people respond to her by placating her as usual) then I WILL walk away. Again - I'm also dealing with a person who came from a dysfunctional background. She plays the 'hurt' card a lot, it gets her out of trouble. Just when the group is coming to a majority decision, she pouts and carries on with "you're making this personal, it's because you don't like me," and people end up giving in to her out of pity. Not any more! I've had it. The trouble is, people get into bad habits in childhood, and if they are never challenged, they keep doing it in adulthood. And they do collateral damage. I've realised through this process that I am a lot less tolerant, a lot less patient than I was a year ago. Our next meeting is supposed to be in the next week or so but I don't think it is happening. I am going to push for a meeting in the next few weeks if nothing happens soon. The problem is - certain dysfunctional types often work their way to positions of responsibility. And when they do, their capacity to hurt people and businesses greatly increases. They are able to do a lot more damage, and especially if they are in CYA mode, a lot more people get hurt. But eventually truth will out, the axe will fall and they will get theirs. Any news about that job ad you saw? Marg [/QUOTE]
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