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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 427975" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Shoulder to cry on - definitely. I would also suggest you get your husband to read the posts here too, it can really help you both to get the info at the same level.</p><p></p><p>I am grabbing a few minutes in the wee small hours to post quickly - have a look at "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Given the problems with your husband's ex, it is possible that the inconsistency, coupled with the ADHD, is what has contributed to a lot of this boy's behaviour problems. She does sound like she's checked out for some respite, with zero notice. I've seen other parents do this with their difficult kids. Or not even difficult kids - easy child 2/difficult child 2's exBF was raised this way, his mother was a party girl who would sometimes not come home for days. The boy had to fend for himself in the meantime, often not knowing where his mother was or when she would be back. She began doing this when he was about 5 years old, he told us. They lived in the inner city. There was even a time when she was evicted from the apartment (and therefore so was he) and she stayed with a friend, but the friend didn't want both of the. So he stayed with us for a few weeks/months. She kept promising him, "I'll rent an apartment for you," but never did it. That sort of inconsistency and frank neglect can do a lot of harm.</p><p></p><p>Gotta go get sleep... I'll watch tis thread when I am awake and conscious...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 427975, member: 1991"] Shoulder to cry on - definitely. I would also suggest you get your husband to read the posts here too, it can really help you both to get the info at the same level. I am grabbing a few minutes in the wee small hours to post quickly - have a look at "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Given the problems with your husband's ex, it is possible that the inconsistency, coupled with the ADHD, is what has contributed to a lot of this boy's behaviour problems. She does sound like she's checked out for some respite, with zero notice. I've seen other parents do this with their difficult kids. Or not even difficult kids - easy child 2/difficult child 2's exBF was raised this way, his mother was a party girl who would sometimes not come home for days. The boy had to fend for himself in the meantime, often not knowing where his mother was or when she would be back. She began doing this when he was about 5 years old, he told us. They lived in the inner city. There was even a time when she was evicted from the apartment (and therefore so was he) and she stayed with a friend, but the friend didn't want both of the. So he stayed with us for a few weeks/months. She kept promising him, "I'll rent an apartment for you," but never did it. That sort of inconsistency and frank neglect can do a lot of harm. Gotta go get sleep... I'll watch tis thread when I am awake and conscious... Marg [/QUOTE]
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