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<blockquote data-quote="seriously" data-source="post: 428179" data-attributes="member: 11920"><p>If he's only going to be there 3 more weeks - any chance you can send him back to biomom wherever she is with about as much notice as she gave you?</p><p></p><p>And I would just forget the homeschooling. If biomom doesn't like it - so what? 3 weeks of no homeschooling is not going to make any difference in the long run but getting rid of that daily battle may let you get through the next 3 weeks with your sanity intact.</p><p></p><p>I suggest you send the younger kids away to a grandparent or someone for a couple of weeks. You do not want him victimizing them and you should never leave him alone with them if his behavior is that bad. And the conflict, if it's severe, will traumatize them and may contribute to difficult behaviors for months after he is gone. I know school is in session but if you have someone who is close enough for them to keep attending then I would do that. You could also go have a frank talk with the head of their school and tell them why you need to send the kids away and see if they will help by providing school work for them to take with them on their little "vacation". You could also ask that person if he/she has any suggestions of local resources to help you deal with an out of control 12 year old.</p><p></p><p>ADHD does not explain all those kinds of behaviors. And I have never heard of Risperdal being rxd to treat it either. Often ODD is a description of behaviors - not a diagnosis. Usually the behaviors are the result of underlying neurological, developmental or psychiatric problems. Any chance you can contact the doctor that prescribed the Risperdal directly and ask for help/guidance?</p><p></p><p>If you had to call the police - why? What happened when they came? </p><p></p><p>Practical things -</p><p></p><p>Have you locked up all prescription and over the counter medications? If not, I suggest you do that even if you only lock them up in a metal fishing tackle box with a padlock and put them away in your closet. You do not need him getting into those.</p><p></p><p>What did he steal? I hope you are keeping your valuables, wallets and any important financial information like credit cards and tax returns where he cannot get to them.</p><p></p><p>Is he using a computer? Is it under password lock? If not, you really should do that right now. And go out and check to make sure he hasn't used your financial info to charge things online. </p><p></p><p>Same thing if you have a landline phone - long distance charges??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seriously, post: 428179, member: 11920"] If he's only going to be there 3 more weeks - any chance you can send him back to biomom wherever she is with about as much notice as she gave you? And I would just forget the homeschooling. If biomom doesn't like it - so what? 3 weeks of no homeschooling is not going to make any difference in the long run but getting rid of that daily battle may let you get through the next 3 weeks with your sanity intact. I suggest you send the younger kids away to a grandparent or someone for a couple of weeks. You do not want him victimizing them and you should never leave him alone with them if his behavior is that bad. And the conflict, if it's severe, will traumatize them and may contribute to difficult behaviors for months after he is gone. I know school is in session but if you have someone who is close enough for them to keep attending then I would do that. You could also go have a frank talk with the head of their school and tell them why you need to send the kids away and see if they will help by providing school work for them to take with them on their little "vacation". You could also ask that person if he/she has any suggestions of local resources to help you deal with an out of control 12 year old. ADHD does not explain all those kinds of behaviors. And I have never heard of Risperdal being rxd to treat it either. Often ODD is a description of behaviors - not a diagnosis. Usually the behaviors are the result of underlying neurological, developmental or psychiatric problems. Any chance you can contact the doctor that prescribed the Risperdal directly and ask for help/guidance? If you had to call the police - why? What happened when they came? Practical things - Have you locked up all prescription and over the counter medications? If not, I suggest you do that even if you only lock them up in a metal fishing tackle box with a padlock and put them away in your closet. You do not need him getting into those. What did he steal? I hope you are keeping your valuables, wallets and any important financial information like credit cards and tax returns where he cannot get to them. Is he using a computer? Is it under password lock? If not, you really should do that right now. And go out and check to make sure he hasn't used your financial info to charge things online. Same thing if you have a landline phone - long distance charges?? [/QUOTE]
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