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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 368480" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I'll just tell you what I did- I blocked my bro's phone numbers (home and cell) from calling my house. Of course he ccould find another phone number to call from but if a person persists in contacting you after making efforts to get them to stop, then they are broaching harassment and pretty much have to either get a grip on the boundaries set or continue and face the possibility of legal charges. </p><p></p><p>I have come to learn that in very dysfunctional families the situation you are describing is very common. Why does it turn out this way? because the bro was allowed to treat, and possibly even encouraged, to "take care of" her (ie- control and become a pseudo-parent of), the sister in childhood instead of both being treated like children and equal siblings. The boy ends up growing up feeling superior to the girl and entitled to tell her what to do. He doesn't feel that way about everyone he meets but still, is not emotionally healthy himself due to all this. Of course, he's less likely to see it.</p><p></p><p>...just my layman's opinion..</p><p></p><p>That's not syaing that when a boy is taught to protect a sister, it's wrong or unhealthy. But when it's a situation where the boy is like a third parent, it is unhealthy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 368480, member: 3699"] I'll just tell you what I did- I blocked my bro's phone numbers (home and cell) from calling my house. Of course he ccould find another phone number to call from but if a person persists in contacting you after making efforts to get them to stop, then they are broaching harassment and pretty much have to either get a grip on the boundaries set or continue and face the possibility of legal charges. I have come to learn that in very dysfunctional families the situation you are describing is very common. Why does it turn out this way? because the bro was allowed to treat, and possibly even encouraged, to "take care of" her (ie- control and become a pseudo-parent of), the sister in childhood instead of both being treated like children and equal siblings. The boy ends up growing up feeling superior to the girl and entitled to tell her what to do. He doesn't feel that way about everyone he meets but still, is not emotionally healthy himself due to all this. Of course, he's less likely to see it. ...just my layman's opinion.. That's not syaing that when a boy is taught to protect a sister, it's wrong or unhealthy. But when it's a situation where the boy is like a third parent, it is unhealthy. [/QUOTE]
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