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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 175747" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Mine was a runner. She ran from age 6 to age 10 or 11. It actually reached the point that the police refused to look for her -- she was good at hiding from them and always came home. I also quit looking for her. Strangely, she quit when I quit making a big deal about it. That is, I wouldn't chase after her, wouldn't hunt for her, would simply say welcome back when she walked in the door. I gave up on giving her consequences for running. I gave up on trying to give her rewards for not running. When she didn't get her way, she ran.</p><p> </p><p>Like you, when she was in flight mode, she couldn't or wouldn't stop herself. Mind you, I'm not counting the times she would sneak out of the house to go do what she wanted. To me, this wasn't running -- this was getting her way regardless of the consequences. Also like yours, there was no concern when she returned. As yours so blithely stated, he knew you guys would look for him. I was lucky that we lived in a very safe neighborhood but, even so, no neighborhood is 100&#37; safe -- there's dogs, cars and even some bad people. I was worried sick when she did this. She frequently didn't come home until it was well after dark.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know whether she quit running because there was no longer any drama in it or simply because she had matured somewhat and began to see the dangers of running. Either way, I was grateful it stopped but nothing I or her therapist did or suggested ever stopped the running.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry you're going through this. I know the fear and anger you are feeling. I wish I had some trick that worked that I could suggest. I hope you find something.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 175747, member: 3626"] Mine was a runner. She ran from age 6 to age 10 or 11. It actually reached the point that the police refused to look for her -- she was good at hiding from them and always came home. I also quit looking for her. Strangely, she quit when I quit making a big deal about it. That is, I wouldn't chase after her, wouldn't hunt for her, would simply say welcome back when she walked in the door. I gave up on giving her consequences for running. I gave up on trying to give her rewards for not running. When she didn't get her way, she ran. Like you, when she was in flight mode, she couldn't or wouldn't stop herself. Mind you, I'm not counting the times she would sneak out of the house to go do what she wanted. To me, this wasn't running -- this was getting her way regardless of the consequences. Also like yours, there was no concern when she returned. As yours so blithely stated, he knew you guys would look for him. I was lucky that we lived in a very safe neighborhood but, even so, no neighborhood is 100% safe -- there's dogs, cars and even some bad people. I was worried sick when she did this. She frequently didn't come home until it was well after dark. I don't know whether she quit running because there was no longer any drama in it or simply because she had matured somewhat and began to see the dangers of running. Either way, I was grateful it stopped but nothing I or her therapist did or suggested ever stopped the running. I'm sorry you're going through this. I know the fear and anger you are feeling. I wish I had some trick that worked that I could suggest. I hope you find something. [/QUOTE]
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