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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 402699"><p>Part of kiddo's issue is how much pressure she puts on herself to be the best. Maybe a big part. And so yes, her teachers want her to feel challenged. She's often ahead of the curve on many things, her standardized test scores (no matter how much she frets that they dropped this time and she didn't score as high as her self-made goal) are still way above district average. I tell her time and again I'm happy so long as she does <em>her</em> best, not to worry about being <em>the</em> best. Part of it might also stem from the absent-father "Why am I not good enough?" kind of thing. She has said that she sometimes feels she won't be loved if she does poorly on tests. She's one of those that if she can't be the best she doesn't want to bother because she'll feel she let everyone down and that people think she's stupid and are saying that behind her back. Positive reinforcement of a job well done seems to just make it worse if one other kid scored higher, did better, got more class reaction from their report presentation, etc. Catch 22.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 402699"] Part of kiddo's issue is how much pressure she puts on herself to be the best. Maybe a big part. And so yes, her teachers want her to feel challenged. She's often ahead of the curve on many things, her standardized test scores (no matter how much she frets that they dropped this time and she didn't score as high as her self-made goal) are still way above district average. I tell her time and again I'm happy so long as she does [I]her[/I] best, not to worry about being [I]the[/I] best. Part of it might also stem from the absent-father "Why am I not good enough?" kind of thing. She has said that she sometimes feels she won't be loved if she does poorly on tests. She's one of those that if she can't be the best she doesn't want to bother because she'll feel she let everyone down and that people think she's stupid and are saying that behind her back. Positive reinforcement of a job well done seems to just make it worse if one other kid scored higher, did better, got more class reaction from their report presentation, etc. Catch 22. [/QUOTE]
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