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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 658053" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>One thing that might help you is to realize that your daughter is still not done developing. Her brain is still developing the part used to make decisions etc... This won't be done for a few more years and when you add the years of addiction, it puts her farther behind. So taking a step back when you get upset, working to detach, etc... are going to be very helpful. Of course she is still responsible for her actions, but telling yourself that she is still 'cooking' can help you keep perspective and not stress so badly. </p><p></p><p>I also would not plan for things to happen on the schedule you think they will. Real recovery doesn't work like that. So often the prospect of a big change does create self sabotage and some of it is unconscious, and it is part of the whole process. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry it has been so stressful. But she is making real progress, and that is a great thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 658053, member: 1233"] One thing that might help you is to realize that your daughter is still not done developing. Her brain is still developing the part used to make decisions etc... This won't be done for a few more years and when you add the years of addiction, it puts her farther behind. So taking a step back when you get upset, working to detach, etc... are going to be very helpful. Of course she is still responsible for her actions, but telling yourself that she is still 'cooking' can help you keep perspective and not stress so badly. I also would not plan for things to happen on the schedule you think they will. Real recovery doesn't work like that. So often the prospect of a big change does create self sabotage and some of it is unconscious, and it is part of the whole process. I am sorry it has been so stressful. But she is making real progress, and that is a great thing. [/QUOTE]
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