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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 266857" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>difficult child is 4 ft 10 in, he's in the 43rd percentile and is considered a healthy weight for his height.</p><p> </p><p>I cook dinner, but do not get involved in how much he eats. Because of scheduling, we do not eat as a family at the table, husband seldom has dinner, I eat a large lunch, the two oldest are at work, the middle is with friends or eats a lot right after school. So I just make a dinner for the youngest two, put it on the table and they eat by themselves. (I know I know, families who eat together...we used to, but don't now). I don't care what difficult child eats or how much or little. I don't monitor it. If he gives it all to the dog, I probably wouldn't notice. If he got seconds I wouldn't know. </p><p> </p><p>I don't get involved in difficult child's eating, except on a couple occasions to remind husband that he shouldn't push it. But I won't do it that again. husband has slacked off on that and was upset, and I don't care enough push the issue. Why make husband defensive and mad at me trying to stick up for difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child is well nourished (at his physical he had all his minerals and vitamins checked, and lead, a full blood panel). He's healthy. </p><p> </p><p>I don't get involved, but difficult child as a victim, needs to have a bad guy to rope husband into his rescuer/hero role (the Karpman drama triangle). husband is getting a lot better about it, he doesn't act on the stuff difficult child accuses me of, he probably doesn't believe much of it anymore, but it still worries him and eats at him and it's not difficult child who's going to make it a bad weekend, altho he's the catalyst. It's going to be a bad weekend because husband will be upset, guilty, withdrawn, focused on soothing difficult child, anxious. </p><p> </p><p>And mark my words there will be a second strike from difficult child, something stolen, something ruined, something...</p><p> </p><p>And then husband will be angry, but not do anything and the second half of the weekend will be spent with husband eaten up with anger and trying desperately to shove his head in the sand.</p><p> </p><p>Frankly, I think husband needs the lexapro. But that will never happen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 266857, member: 5169"] difficult child is 4 ft 10 in, he's in the 43rd percentile and is considered a healthy weight for his height. I cook dinner, but do not get involved in how much he eats. Because of scheduling, we do not eat as a family at the table, husband seldom has dinner, I eat a large lunch, the two oldest are at work, the middle is with friends or eats a lot right after school. So I just make a dinner for the youngest two, put it on the table and they eat by themselves. (I know I know, families who eat together...we used to, but don't now). I don't care what difficult child eats or how much or little. I don't monitor it. If he gives it all to the dog, I probably wouldn't notice. If he got seconds I wouldn't know. I don't get involved in difficult child's eating, except on a couple occasions to remind husband that he shouldn't push it. But I won't do it that again. husband has slacked off on that and was upset, and I don't care enough push the issue. Why make husband defensive and mad at me trying to stick up for difficult child. difficult child is well nourished (at his physical he had all his minerals and vitamins checked, and lead, a full blood panel). He's healthy. I don't get involved, but difficult child as a victim, needs to have a bad guy to rope husband into his rescuer/hero role (the Karpman drama triangle). husband is getting a lot better about it, he doesn't act on the stuff difficult child accuses me of, he probably doesn't believe much of it anymore, but it still worries him and eats at him and it's not difficult child who's going to make it a bad weekend, altho he's the catalyst. It's going to be a bad weekend because husband will be upset, guilty, withdrawn, focused on soothing difficult child, anxious. And mark my words there will be a second strike from difficult child, something stolen, something ruined, something... And then husband will be angry, but not do anything and the second half of the weekend will be spent with husband eaten up with anger and trying desperately to shove his head in the sand. Frankly, I think husband needs the lexapro. But that will never happen. [/QUOTE]
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