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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 266872" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>Please explain. Because to me that means that we are so immune to his antics and so bogged down by it, particularly husband that what is bizarre to the rest of the world is normal to us. </p><p> </p><p>If that's what you mean, I agree. I've been fighting this. This is NOT right, this is NOT normal. Syrup should NOT be contraband in any household, it's NOT amusing. He's WAY OFF. But...</p><p> </p><p>In the outside world, difficult child is good at seeming normal, if just a sad little neglected boy, so we get no social support.</p><p> </p><p>And...</p><p> </p><p>husband did not come from a normal family. His family was abusive, husband went to school on occasion with bruises. His father now says he's probably autistic. His father would probably know: he has a daughter by wife 2 who is so severely austistic she never learned to speak and the police are regular visitors at their house (info comes from the two or three annual phone calls from husband's dad).</p><p> </p><p>husband's mother has some kind of personality disorder, histrionic, dependent, narcissistic. She's weak and trembly and afraid of the world, and yet rules her three sons with an iron fist. I strongly suspect she used father in law's temper and abuse to keep her son's in line. When father in law left her, she had nervous breakdowns and couldn't live by herself (I don't know the details, but husband just said, it was a disaster), and might have been hospitalized once or twice. Her youngest son, 9, at the time of the divorce spent time living with neighbors (not relatives, even though there were plenty of those around). He spent 2 years with one family in HS and somehow he spent his 10 birthday living with a neighbor and everyone in his family forgot his birthday and husband doesn't remember the incident or where mother in law was. There's a lot of 'forgetting' and 'covering up' about husband's childhood and I don't know what really happened. husband wants to pretend it was normal and happy, except maybe the year his dad left, but other family members have said stuff and husband contradicts himself and sometimes tells something shocking, then shuts up and closes it off.</p><p> </p><p>THen husband went and married someone who always lost the struggle with psychosis. I don't think he really knows what normal is, or his normal is not what everyone else's is.</p><p> </p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite5" alt=":confused:" title="Confused :confused:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":confused:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 266872, member: 5169"] Please explain. Because to me that means that we are so immune to his antics and so bogged down by it, particularly husband that what is bizarre to the rest of the world is normal to us. If that's what you mean, I agree. I've been fighting this. This is NOT right, this is NOT normal. Syrup should NOT be contraband in any household, it's NOT amusing. He's WAY OFF. But... In the outside world, difficult child is good at seeming normal, if just a sad little neglected boy, so we get no social support. And... husband did not come from a normal family. His family was abusive, husband went to school on occasion with bruises. His father now says he's probably autistic. His father would probably know: he has a daughter by wife 2 who is so severely austistic she never learned to speak and the police are regular visitors at their house (info comes from the two or three annual phone calls from husband's dad). husband's mother has some kind of personality disorder, histrionic, dependent, narcissistic. She's weak and trembly and afraid of the world, and yet rules her three sons with an iron fist. I strongly suspect she used father in law's temper and abuse to keep her son's in line. When father in law left her, she had nervous breakdowns and couldn't live by herself (I don't know the details, but husband just said, it was a disaster), and might have been hospitalized once or twice. Her youngest son, 9, at the time of the divorce spent time living with neighbors (not relatives, even though there were plenty of those around). He spent 2 years with one family in HS and somehow he spent his 10 birthday living with a neighbor and everyone in his family forgot his birthday and husband doesn't remember the incident or where mother in law was. There's a lot of 'forgetting' and 'covering up' about husband's childhood and I don't know what really happened. husband wants to pretend it was normal and happy, except maybe the year his dad left, but other family members have said stuff and husband contradicts himself and sometimes tells something shocking, then shuts up and closes it off. THen husband went and married someone who always lost the struggle with psychosis. I don't think he really knows what normal is, or his normal is not what everyone else's is. :confused1: [/QUOTE]
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