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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 239849"><p>I really enjoy all the point of views here. And I can agree or disagree with any comment. For me, I don't know where I would be or who I would of become. I didn't have the chance to find out. I DO know that I worked very very hard and missed a lot of easy child's younger years because I was working so HE could have more. I wanted more than anything to make him proud of me. But, look, where I am now. Not in a very good situation. I have a good job. Thought I would get married, have a baby, thought I might even be able to be a stay at home mom. Instead, difficult child came into our lives. I was 32 years old, married, saved for the baby, had a home, planned pregnancy. Yet he is the biggest challenge I ever faced. I love my boys more than anything in this world.</p><p> </p><p>Now, I DO believe Welfare and programs are there to help. I had friends that told me to quit my job, live on welfare. I had a friend that bought a house while on Housing allowance. Yep..(before section 8) Get her HOusing check and turn it over for house payment. Yet I was working my butt off and went without many things.</p><p> </p><p>The system was there and helped me when I needed it. A short time. I do not think the system should be there to raise a family.</p><p> </p><p>Of all the things I have ever done, I am proud of how far I have come, from where I started. My parents were not poor. Good upbringing, good home life. Yet, they did not give me any money. They did not babysit. They pointed out programs, educational opportunities and I used those opportunities. Most included child care. </p><p> </p><p>I agree, children should never be used to turn around a life. Unplanned pregnancies are just that..unplanned. But you cannot dwell on that. You need to decide where you go from there.</p><p> </p><p>I know people that keep having babies so they don't have to work. And I see young mothers who work hard, get educated and become someone amazing.</p><p> </p><p>What would of happened to me back then if easy child was a difficult child?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 239849"] I really enjoy all the point of views here. And I can agree or disagree with any comment. For me, I don't know where I would be or who I would of become. I didn't have the chance to find out. I DO know that I worked very very hard and missed a lot of easy child's younger years because I was working so HE could have more. I wanted more than anything to make him proud of me. But, look, where I am now. Not in a very good situation. I have a good job. Thought I would get married, have a baby, thought I might even be able to be a stay at home mom. Instead, difficult child came into our lives. I was 32 years old, married, saved for the baby, had a home, planned pregnancy. Yet he is the biggest challenge I ever faced. I love my boys more than anything in this world. Now, I DO believe Welfare and programs are there to help. I had friends that told me to quit my job, live on welfare. I had a friend that bought a house while on Housing allowance. Yep..(before section 8) Get her HOusing check and turn it over for house payment. Yet I was working my butt off and went without many things. The system was there and helped me when I needed it. A short time. I do not think the system should be there to raise a family. Of all the things I have ever done, I am proud of how far I have come, from where I started. My parents were not poor. Good upbringing, good home life. Yet, they did not give me any money. They did not babysit. They pointed out programs, educational opportunities and I used those opportunities. Most included child care. I agree, children should never be used to turn around a life. Unplanned pregnancies are just that..unplanned. But you cannot dwell on that. You need to decide where you go from there. I know people that keep having babies so they don't have to work. And I see young mothers who work hard, get educated and become someone amazing. What would of happened to me back then if easy child was a difficult child? [/QUOTE]
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