husband has never been the most social person. Actually avoids most social situations. I've known this for many years. Since I'm not a super social person either, it's been annoying but not really a problem. But as he's grown older, it's become worse. And it's grating on my nerves. Doesn't help that he's the grouch of grouches either. Due to our money situation I don't invite the kids to dinner anymore. Usually, it's the other way around. But yesterday I'd put this big pork roast into the crockpot. I know that it's not something easy child makes for her own family as there are too many leftovers. So when I learned her mother in law had cancelled their sunday dinner, I invited them over for supper. Nichole had called from boyfriend's house about walking with us later, and I told her to come home early so the baby could have cornbread, her fav thing in the world. (they'd already eaten) As soon as husband discovered they were coming over he became sulky. By the time they arrived he was surly. Nichole, boyfriend, and baby arrived first. Aubrey was upset we weren't leaving for the evening walk yet, so I gave her a piece of corn bread and let her eat it in the livingroom at her little table. She was thrilled. (a first for her) husband had a fit cuz this 23 month old is getting corn bread crumbs on the table and the floor. You'd have thought he'd spent 3 hrs the day before cleaning the room.:2dissapointed:sheesh I told him to mellow out. I knew when I gave it to her it would happen. That's what a vacuum is for. When sister in law, easy child, and Darrin arrived husband acted like they were intruding. Made the same scene about Darrin joining Aubrey at the little table. Did not have a thing to say to the kids, did contribute alot of disgruntled sighing and under the breath comments. Complained that Darrin and Aubrey were diliberatly stomping on his toes. (their table is near his recliner) After the meal, sister in law got out the containers he'd brought along for leftovers to take to work for his supper. (3rd shifter) I kid you not, husband threw a fit. Made sister in law feel like he was stealing our food. I asked sister in law if he'd let me gather up some leftovers for mother in law, then he was welcome to the rest. By the time husband was done commenting, sister in law wouldn't take any. Now, sister in law has done this for years. This is nothing new. And he's welcomed to the leftovers. Most of the time they sit in the frig and go to waste cuz although husband says he'll eat it or take it to work he never does. So he humilliated sister in law, and made easy child feel guilty for no good reason. Oh, and the day before, easy child and sister in law had a cook out and had invited us! husband sat as far from the group as he could get. I noticed but didn't say anything. But thought what the heck is he doing sitting way over there? (and I had to drag him along to begin with, same for his birthday dinner the day before) Might be different if this was an off day. But this is everytime the kids or grands are at the house. And I'm getting majorly fed up. I've talked with him til I'm blue in the face and get nowhere. He's either defensive or just doesn't care. His body language and attitude states clearly he doesn't want them there. And these are his OWN kids and grandkids. The grownups are learning to just ignore him. But the grands get upset, the same way our kids used to when they were little. And it makes me furious. So? Antisocial? Or just a major grouch? This is on top of his daily behavior which isn't much different.