I think they should reevaluate him in the jail and come up with something besides he just a drug addict.
I think it helps to remember that "should" isn't "is". They offer help for drug addiction in jail. When you figure out the drug addiction, the end result, (or the beginning) is figuring out
why you are addicted to drugs, and if you really want to get past the drugs you can ask for help with that.
Is it what should be? No. Show me something that is run by our government that is as it should be. I won't hold my breath.
We, the moms in Parent Emeritus, are not in prison. We're not topless dancing or smoking meth. We're not partying with our friends till dawn and leaving our children with goodness knows who thinking
anyone would take better care of them than us. That's our difficult child kids. We have done what we could and our children are grown and the best we can do is still love them, hope they will figure it out, and honor God (or the Goddess, or Mother Nature, or ourselves, or whatever floats your boat) by making a good life for ourselves, and being thankful for the good things we have made for ourselves. Anyone who wants to argue that should step up, because quite frankly I can't get all worked up about crummy food in prison, or that my daughter is meeting men on MySpace. That's
her, and I did stuff that was just as stupid when I was younger and all I can do is hope it turns out well for her because
she's an adult.
Prison doesn't have an evaluation system. Prison is just plain for punishment.
That's it. There are pre-sentencing evaluations that should have been done before our kids went to prison. That's why Nicole Ritchie spent 12 hours in jail and our kids don't. She has money to sway the evaluation in her favor. That's also why we will be reading all about Nicole Ritchie's problems again and again. Her money bailed her out when we can't bail our adult children out.
I know that the system
. I really do. I know that there is no one out there looking out for us and our kids. But that
is the way it is. We can not make these decisions for our kids. We all know that s--t eating grin that they give when they know the consequences and say "I don't care, it's not going to happen to me!" or "I don't care, I can handle it!". It's not like they weren't told the food sucked. It's not like they weren't told there would be people there who might hurt them. They have to live these things themselves and make their own decisions about whether or not they want to take those paths over and over again. Just like we decided whether to
it up and raise them or dump them on someone else.
Not one of us who has a kid in this much trouble can say with a straight face that the day they took our kids off to jail he or she was voluntarily going to their meetings and clean and sober and not taking advantage of people. What's available to our kids isn't what's available to Nicole Ritchie. But it seems to me that she doesn't want to take advantage of what's available to
her, either. We all know, and our kids
should know, that if they play the game life will be easier, and it's too late to play the game after the cops have had to hunt you down and drag your sorry behind to jail. Is the game unfair? It's irrelevant. If someone told them life was fair they were lying. We are talking about adults here, not children. Life
when you don't play by the rules. Half the time it
anyway. I don't want to get up for work in the morning, and I rarely want to cook dinner or clean my house but somehow I get to work, we eat, and I don't live in a sty. We have to make the best of it, and at the least, good people don't drag people down with them.
Janet, again, I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. I hope that you know that these are his choices. I hope that you and your boyfriend will take this opportunity to move on without him. You deserve it, and it's past time that you recognized that and acted upon it.
P.S. All of the censored stuff in my note is for S U C K (s).
