Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Ant's first week
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 91292" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Janet, </p><p></p><p>I know your feelings are raw right now. But I believe that stressed 2 the hilt has a very good point.</p><p></p><p>Jail/prison is not the way to rehabilitate your son. I hear that that is your frustration. But, jail is not the answer to how does your son rehabilitate. It is the answer to how do we punish people who break the law. I know there is a separate issue that you have with how the prisons are run, and I have no experience (and therefore no opinion), so I will leave that alone. </p><p></p><p>But what I am trying to say is:</p><p></p><p>You break the law ~~&gt; you go to jail.</p><p></p><p>You want to rehabilitate ~~&gt; you go to a rehab to get clean. </p><p></p><p>The jail is not there to rehab anyone. It is there to punish, or if nothing else, get dangerous people off the streets. Again, I hear your angst that he is in the same place as criminals who have done much worse, and your feelings are valid on that, but I hope you are seeing the point that I am trying to make.</p><p></p><p>Ant never wanted help to get clean when he was out of jail. Do you really think he would accept the help if it were offered now that he is IN jail? You and I both know that he will not get help until and unless he wants it. Most jails have AA meetings there (I can't tell you how many of my friends had their first AA meeting in jail). It is there if he wants it. But there is really nothing anyone could do for him. No prison could MAKE him rehabilitate, even if it were offered.</p><p></p><p>You know I have a special place in my heart for Ant. As I said before, even if he gave up on God, God has not given up on him. God sometimes sends the darndest characters to do his angelwork. Let's just keep praying that Ant gets a real good one.</p><p></p><p></p><p>(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 91292, member: 3647"] Janet, I know your feelings are raw right now. But I believe that stressed 2 the hilt has a very good point. Jail/prison is not the way to rehabilitate your son. I hear that that is your frustration. But, jail is not the answer to how does your son rehabilitate. It is the answer to how do we punish people who break the law. I know there is a separate issue that you have with how the prisons are run, and I have no experience (and therefore no opinion), so I will leave that alone. But what I am trying to say is: You break the law ~~> you go to jail. You want to rehabilitate ~~> you go to a rehab to get clean. The jail is not there to rehab anyone. It is there to punish, or if nothing else, get dangerous people off the streets. Again, I hear your angst that he is in the same place as criminals who have done much worse, and your feelings are valid on that, but I hope you are seeing the point that I am trying to make. Ant never wanted help to get clean when he was out of jail. Do you really think he would accept the help if it were offered now that he is IN jail? You and I both know that he will not get help until and unless he wants it. Most jails have AA meetings there (I can't tell you how many of my friends had their first AA meeting in jail). It is there if he wants it. But there is really nothing anyone could do for him. No prison could MAKE him rehabilitate, even if it were offered. You know I have a special place in my heart for Ant. As I said before, even if he gave up on God, God has not given up on him. God sometimes sends the darndest characters to do his angelwork. Let's just keep praying that Ant gets a real good one. (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Ant's first week
Top