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<blockquote data-quote="saving grace" data-source="post: 91371" data-attributes="member: 1538"><p><strong>Are you kidding me!</strong> I cant believe what I am reading. <strong>STOP!</strong></p><p></p><p>This is not what this post is about. We, the Mothers do not have the right or knowledge to disect the prison or jail system in any state. To take someones pain in wrap it in your opinions is cruel. This is not the place. Every boardmember on this board that know Janet and Ant feel for her and her family. The fact that Ant is an addict and has disregarded the law is not disputed. We all "know" it we dont have to rub it in Janet's face. People in glass houses should not throw stones!!! We all have children that have done stupid things at one time or another THATS WHY WE ARE HERE FOR PETE SAKE!!!! </p><p>Janet is in pain for her child, Thats it! She has always be the first one to direct someone to Melody Beattie's CoDependent No More, or to the detachement web site, she has called the police on Ant a few times, she turned him in. She has put him out many times. She has taken phone calls in the middle of the night from Ant in some distress and turned him down. </p><p>She is NOT crying "poor Ant" in this post. She wants help for her son, just like every single one of us. No she can not make Ant get help but that doesnt stop her from "wanting" it. Ant is taking his punishment, he is in jail, he did not run, he turned himself in on the day that court ordered him to. That tells me that he is accepting his responsiblity. that tells me that he knows what he did was wrong. The fact that he is hungry is understandable. Take anyone of us out of our comfort zone where we can eat 24/7 if we want to and give us and "adequate" amount of food and we are going to be hungry. He will eventually stop thinking about the food, he will adjust to his environment and learn to cope and deal with what is given him. We, the people here that know and love Ant will pray for him every night that he is safe and that his belief in God reappears and protects him. We will pray that Ant will get out of prison one day and be ready to and strong enough to be a good dad to his son and live a sober productive life. Thats all we can do.</p><p>Ant has a disease. He did try, for anyone who doesnt have addiction in their family <strong>you dont know you just dont know!!! </strong>You dont watch your family member suffer, you dont watch them day in and day out struggle with daily life. They are surrounded by their demons. My son is a good boy, he doesnt want to be an addict. He didnt choose to have low self esteem. He didnt choose lose his father to drugs when he was only 8 years old. Yes rehab and help is available and yes Ant went that route but for one reason or another he still has struggles within him. Ant will get there, I have faith in him. My tax dollars for all I am concerned are spent helping Ant, I may not get to choose how they help him but they are helping him. Prison is what it is, it can be help, it can be punishment it can be purgatory. Only Ant will decide what prison will be for him.</p><p></p><p>Sorry, for the Soapbox this morning but I am sick and tired of reading posts that are so far off from the reason I come here everyday. </p><p></p><p>Oh and stressedtothehilt I can understand that you have family in PA but to personalize this, and implying that Ant put your family at risk is going too far. Again this post is about Pain, Ants disease and love. Ant is a father, a brother, a son and a person who needs help. Dont you dare say that he got in a car and drove with utter disregard for your family. If you knew Ant you would know why he was in the car, I am not saying he should have driven that night he made a mistake, but no one was hurt. Leave it at that. God was with Ant that night. </p><p></p><p>Janet is in pain. period!</p><p></p><p>Grace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="saving grace, post: 91371, member: 1538"] [b]Are you kidding me![/b] I cant believe what I am reading. [b]STOP![/b] This is not what this post is about. We, the Mothers do not have the right or knowledge to disect the prison or jail system in any state. To take someones pain in wrap it in your opinions is cruel. This is not the place. Every boardmember on this board that know Janet and Ant feel for her and her family. The fact that Ant is an addict and has disregarded the law is not disputed. We all "know" it we dont have to rub it in Janet's face. People in glass houses should not throw stones!!! We all have children that have done stupid things at one time or another THATS WHY WE ARE HERE FOR PETE SAKE!!!! Janet is in pain for her child, Thats it! She has always be the first one to direct someone to Melody Beattie's CoDependent No More, or to the detachement web site, she has called the police on Ant a few times, she turned him in. She has put him out many times. She has taken phone calls in the middle of the night from Ant in some distress and turned him down. She is NOT crying "poor Ant" in this post. She wants help for her son, just like every single one of us. No she can not make Ant get help but that doesnt stop her from "wanting" it. Ant is taking his punishment, he is in jail, he did not run, he turned himself in on the day that court ordered him to. That tells me that he is accepting his responsiblity. that tells me that he knows what he did was wrong. The fact that he is hungry is understandable. Take anyone of us out of our comfort zone where we can eat 24/7 if we want to and give us and "adequate" amount of food and we are going to be hungry. He will eventually stop thinking about the food, he will adjust to his environment and learn to cope and deal with what is given him. We, the people here that know and love Ant will pray for him every night that he is safe and that his belief in God reappears and protects him. We will pray that Ant will get out of prison one day and be ready to and strong enough to be a good dad to his son and live a sober productive life. Thats all we can do. Ant has a disease. He did try, for anyone who doesnt have addiction in their family [b]you dont know you just dont know!!! [/b]You dont watch your family member suffer, you dont watch them day in and day out struggle with daily life. They are surrounded by their demons. My son is a good boy, he doesnt want to be an addict. He didnt choose to have low self esteem. He didnt choose lose his father to drugs when he was only 8 years old. Yes rehab and help is available and yes Ant went that route but for one reason or another he still has struggles within him. Ant will get there, I have faith in him. My tax dollars for all I am concerned are spent helping Ant, I may not get to choose how they help him but they are helping him. Prison is what it is, it can be help, it can be punishment it can be purgatory. Only Ant will decide what prison will be for him. Sorry, for the Soapbox this morning but I am sick and tired of reading posts that are so far off from the reason I come here everyday. Oh and stressedtothehilt I can understand that you have family in PA but to personalize this, and implying that Ant put your family at risk is going too far. Again this post is about Pain, Ants disease and love. Ant is a father, a brother, a son and a person who needs help. Dont you dare say that he got in a car and drove with utter disregard for your family. If you knew Ant you would know why he was in the car, I am not saying he should have driven that night he made a mistake, but no one was hurt. Leave it at that. God was with Ant that night. Janet is in pain. period! Grace [/QUOTE]
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