TiredSoul
Warrior Mom since 2007
My 5 y.o. son will be starting Kindergarten on Sept. 5. I am feeling anxious because I fear the worst as far as his behavior and potentially getting called daily. My question is this - Is it better to talk to his teacher in advance about possible behavior issues or take a wait and see approach? What have you found worked or didn't work? In a way, I want to talk to the teacher so she can try to work with him, but then again I don't want her to label him as trouble and look for issues. In the back of my mind, I guess I am hoping that starting in a new school, with new kids and teacher will give him the fresh start he needs and maybe he won't have as many issues. Probably what every Mom hopes, huh?!
(Background: He attended Pre-K M-F for 3 hrs per day. He had several problems with pushing/hitting, not following directions, and various other social/behavioral issues. He is not a bully and does not 'usually' instigate trouble. When I have attended his class functions and watched his interactions, when he pushed or hit, it was usually in response to someone else doing something to him. It is how he handles his frustration after someone is bothering him for quite awhile and that child does not get in trouble or stop. He wants to be in charge and for everyone to do things his way. He also gets frustrated when trying to do things he has a hard time with - writing a letter the wrong way, getting his shoes on, etc.) The way he responds to frustration is by screaming, saying mean things, blaming others, or aggression.)
(Background: He attended Pre-K M-F for 3 hrs per day. He had several problems with pushing/hitting, not following directions, and various other social/behavioral issues. He is not a bully and does not 'usually' instigate trouble. When I have attended his class functions and watched his interactions, when he pushed or hit, it was usually in response to someone else doing something to him. It is how he handles his frustration after someone is bothering him for quite awhile and that child does not get in trouble or stop. He wants to be in charge and for everyone to do things his way. He also gets frustrated when trying to do things he has a hard time with - writing a letter the wrong way, getting his shoes on, etc.) The way he responds to frustration is by screaming, saying mean things, blaming others, or aggression.)