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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 440287" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>At 8 - time concept is like -----GONE man - it's just WHAT? But I'm having a good time - Noooo NOT NOW......OH YOU ARE SUCH A KILL JOY MOM! YOU STINK YOU KILLER OF MY GOOD TIME POOPYHEAD!!! Basically? You just ripped the arm on the record player cross his great record without a warning in a room full of old really cool people. YOU think? WOW I really went the extra mile and let him have 2 hours, sat in the cold, even with the flu, and drug his little brother out here. (Had to look where you were by the way it's like 100 here in the STATES) And HIM? He's Sooooo engrossed in what he's doing - you could have been bitten by a pack of wolves, drug off by vampires, and ran over by a BigFoot Monster truck and he would have never noticed. Literally you were on TWO different plains. </p><p></p><p>The next time you go anywhere and he's playing try this - BEFORE he leaves to go to his activity - Look him square in the face and say WE are going to be here for ONE hour. When it gets close to the end of YOUR hour? I'm going to give you a 45 minute warning like they do in soccer matches. I'll just sort of yell out - what should our code be - You want me to yell "Trevor You have 15 minutes, OR Should I just Yell Trevor Or The word 15 - your choice." - Then let him choose. My son always picked JUST 15...</p><p></p><p>Then (look right here at my eyes) When you have 10 minutes left? I'll yell "TEN" and no one will have to know what it means but you and I, but you'll know - YOU HAVE TEN MINUTES left to wrap it up. So make a mental note of it - because I will be ready to go without excuses or carrying on this is how the big guys do it - and I'm trying to make this a situation that doesn't embarrass US - Got it? And when I see that there are only FIVE minutes left - I'm going to start gathering my things to get ready for the car - and I'll yell to you "FIVE" and you'll know - so that this isn't such a shock and just know - you have FIVE minutes left - And when you have ONE minute left? I'm going to start heading to the car - I'll yell TIME - and then when you see me heading to the car? You need to tell your mates -"I need to go fellas - See you tomorrow." I belive you can do this because all the major sports guys stop their sports like this with a 15, 10, 5 and final warning bell - so I know you can do it too. It would be great for us to just leave the park no problems, and if it works great tomorrow? I think we'll go to XX for ice cream - </p><p></p><p>Try that and see if he does better being warned on his time - and if he does good - even if he comes within 2 or 3 minutes - PRAISE HIM and say WELL DONE - lets go get ice cream - don't say "WEll you were four minutes late - </p><p></p><p>If it does work out ? After about a week? See if he can wear a watch and set the alarm for him to five minutes an 1 minute - and see if he can stop on his own and make the prize something BIGGER - tell him the prizes will only get better - the greater he does. </p><p></p><p>THIS motivation worked pretty good for Dude - WHEN he came home. It was getting him to come at ALL that was our problem. lol</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 440287, member: 4964"] At 8 - time concept is like -----GONE man - it's just WHAT? But I'm having a good time - Noooo NOT NOW......OH YOU ARE SUCH A KILL JOY MOM! YOU STINK YOU KILLER OF MY GOOD TIME POOPYHEAD!!! Basically? You just ripped the arm on the record player cross his great record without a warning in a room full of old really cool people. YOU think? WOW I really went the extra mile and let him have 2 hours, sat in the cold, even with the flu, and drug his little brother out here. (Had to look where you were by the way it's like 100 here in the STATES) And HIM? He's Sooooo engrossed in what he's doing - you could have been bitten by a pack of wolves, drug off by vampires, and ran over by a BigFoot Monster truck and he would have never noticed. Literally you were on TWO different plains. The next time you go anywhere and he's playing try this - BEFORE he leaves to go to his activity - Look him square in the face and say WE are going to be here for ONE hour. When it gets close to the end of YOUR hour? I'm going to give you a 45 minute warning like they do in soccer matches. I'll just sort of yell out - what should our code be - You want me to yell "Trevor You have 15 minutes, OR Should I just Yell Trevor Or The word 15 - your choice." - Then let him choose. My son always picked JUST 15... Then (look right here at my eyes) When you have 10 minutes left? I'll yell "TEN" and no one will have to know what it means but you and I, but you'll know - YOU HAVE TEN MINUTES left to wrap it up. So make a mental note of it - because I will be ready to go without excuses or carrying on this is how the big guys do it - and I'm trying to make this a situation that doesn't embarrass US - Got it? And when I see that there are only FIVE minutes left - I'm going to start gathering my things to get ready for the car - and I'll yell to you "FIVE" and you'll know - so that this isn't such a shock and just know - you have FIVE minutes left - And when you have ONE minute left? I'm going to start heading to the car - I'll yell TIME - and then when you see me heading to the car? You need to tell your mates -"I need to go fellas - See you tomorrow." I belive you can do this because all the major sports guys stop their sports like this with a 15, 10, 5 and final warning bell - so I know you can do it too. It would be great for us to just leave the park no problems, and if it works great tomorrow? I think we'll go to XX for ice cream - Try that and see if he does better being warned on his time - and if he does good - even if he comes within 2 or 3 minutes - PRAISE HIM and say WELL DONE - lets go get ice cream - don't say "WEll you were four minutes late - If it does work out ? After about a week? See if he can wear a watch and set the alarm for him to five minutes an 1 minute - and see if he can stop on his own and make the prize something BIGGER - tell him the prizes will only get better - the greater he does. THIS motivation worked pretty good for Dude - WHEN he came home. It was getting him to come at ALL that was our problem. lol [/QUOTE]
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