Hi to all you wonderfull warrior parents! I need advice please.....be honest, I can take it! Ok....my difficult child is in a very fancy private school....we moved to be close to it, only 5 minutes drive! He is doing accademicly very well in gr 3. Got 91% for numeracy and 86% for literacy.....This is an English school and we are Afrikaans at home....he is doing ok with the English. BUT this school has a 100% grade 12 passing rate....They put alot of pressure on the children.....Lately my son start biting his hands, but hard! He has developed eczema on his hands now....he gets very painfull headaches and vomits.....My little dude needs to repeat gr 00, because he doesnt achieve this schools standards....The class average for my difficult child is 79 and if a child gets less...they will be screamed at and threatened..... I am very worried about my boys.....Yes this school is posh, has great security, excellent extra murals, very good facilities...Is really regarded as the one of the best in our country..... I am playing around with the idea to take my kids out and put them in an Afrikaans goverment school...with lower standards and expectations....BUT then my children will be in bigger classes, with more children....I am worried for sensory issues....Also I am worried what the effect of moving to new environment and friends and language and routine will do to my difficult child, Aspie-light!!!!!! And they dont have grade 00 classes, what will I do with little dude! It seems as if they do have Occupational Therapist (OT) and ST....And they are 20-30 minutes drive from where we live now! I really am confused about what will be best for my sons....Will they fit into the Afrikaans comunity and kids....exct? Any advice will be very welcome!