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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 517131" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so very sorry. I know it hurts you to know that this is the situation that your mother and brother are in. Kiesta is right that as long as your bro takes her home, as long as he is living with her, there isn't much that will be offered to help. </p><p></p><p>MANY states have elder care/elder abuse programs. If you google elder abuse you will find warning signs, resources in your state, etc... Sadly, if your mom is laying or sitting around in dirty diapers for very long then it is possible for your brother to be charged with elder abuse. MOST areas are understanding of the problems and would NOT charge a relative as long as the situation changes for the better. I would NOT worry about your brother being charged, not at all. Instead I would have bro start with medicaid/medicare and keep telling them that he just can't care for her, needs help, etc....</p><p></p><p>This is HARD for families. It will be super hard on your brother to go and tell people that he can't care for your mom and can't have her living at home unless she can get full time caregivers. It will be super hard for your mom to hear and to accept also. None of us want to be in that position but that is the reality for many many people. Your mother or brother also needs to contact social security to see if they can do anything to help. I don't know if there is anything they can do, but it doesn't hurt to ask.</p><p></p><p>What does the doctor recommend? Do they have any ideas to expedite things? It sounds like your mother needs a nursing home and there are some really good ones. As you go into the search for a nursing home it is important to know the warning signs of elder abuse/neglect and to know what to ask. Googling elder abuse will give you info on this and will help you make sure that you all know what is/isn't acceptable. </p><p></p><p>I wish I could add more to help. It may be that your bro needs to tell the hospital that he can't care for mom and can't take her home because he can't care for her. This will be so hard, but it is probably better than taking her home and having her continue to get injured and continue to have things stay the way they are. I am so terribly sorry, this is such an impossible situation for anyone to be in. Please be sure that your brother has some outlets and support as he goes through all of this. He can't do it alone and probably feels tremendous guilt and pain over everything.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 517131, member: 1233"] I am so very sorry. I know it hurts you to know that this is the situation that your mother and brother are in. Kiesta is right that as long as your bro takes her home, as long as he is living with her, there isn't much that will be offered to help. MANY states have elder care/elder abuse programs. If you google elder abuse you will find warning signs, resources in your state, etc... Sadly, if your mom is laying or sitting around in dirty diapers for very long then it is possible for your brother to be charged with elder abuse. MOST areas are understanding of the problems and would NOT charge a relative as long as the situation changes for the better. I would NOT worry about your brother being charged, not at all. Instead I would have bro start with medicaid/medicare and keep telling them that he just can't care for her, needs help, etc.... This is HARD for families. It will be super hard on your brother to go and tell people that he can't care for your mom and can't have her living at home unless she can get full time caregivers. It will be super hard for your mom to hear and to accept also. None of us want to be in that position but that is the reality for many many people. Your mother or brother also needs to contact social security to see if they can do anything to help. I don't know if there is anything they can do, but it doesn't hurt to ask. What does the doctor recommend? Do they have any ideas to expedite things? It sounds like your mother needs a nursing home and there are some really good ones. As you go into the search for a nursing home it is important to know the warning signs of elder abuse/neglect and to know what to ask. Googling elder abuse will give you info on this and will help you make sure that you all know what is/isn't acceptable. I wish I could add more to help. It may be that your bro needs to tell the hospital that he can't care for mom and can't take her home because he can't care for her. This will be so hard, but it is probably better than taking her home and having her continue to get injured and continue to have things stay the way they are. I am so terribly sorry, this is such an impossible situation for anyone to be in. Please be sure that your brother has some outlets and support as he goes through all of this. He can't do it alone and probably feels tremendous guilt and pain over everything. [/QUOTE]
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