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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 124451" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>You're in a tough situation, sweetie. There's really no right or wrong way to do this. For me it came down to ....which came first the chicken or the egg?.... Well, I had 2 pretty looney chickens on my hands with no diagnosis & a lot of pretty outrageous & at times, dangerous behaviors.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>Having said that, I didn't have time to "wait out" the diagnosis & all the testing involved to get there. I had a husband, a home, a job (albeit pretty part time) & a family on my hands. The world could not shut down waiting for that diagnosis. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>Of course I used the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene; pulled what I could use with the tweedles & put that into play here. With that I mixed in Parenting with Love & Logic (one of the most recommended for children with attachment/adoption issues) & things settled even more. Not that we were walking on a bed of roses but at least we had a firm bed time (or room time) establised, medications taken - no questions asked & a firm rule in place for physical, verbal, emotional aggression or abuse. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>Everything else was, like finding the diagnosis, a work in progress & remains so until this day. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>I'm here to tell you - we've been through countless medications; countless diagnosis's. It all came down to the psychiatrist, his specialty & his comfort level treating certain illnesses, disorders & syndromes. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>While a neuropych evaluation is a wonderful tool - there are times it's a bust. wm's last neuropsychologist evaluation could have been flushed down the toilet given wm's lack of cooperation, his trying to control the administrators of the evaluation & his outright meltdowns because he didn't want to do this again. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>After the first hour each day the evaluation was stopped & finally cancelled on the 3rd day. Then wm wanted to go back because of the prizes at the end of each day. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>Jen, thoughout this entire journey, we're flying by the seats of our pants. We may be working with a viable diagnosis, we may not. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>I look at what is working for kt or wm. If it's working - let's keep going, even if the psychiatrists & their ilk are calling it pregnancy. Don't give a hoot anymore. If it's not working - let's do more research & find another word for pregnancy.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>I'm sorry the school is giving you such a difficult time. They have their time constraints & federal/state reports they must fill out to justify this & that, yada, yada yada . Also there is that "self importance" to throw in a parent's face, just in case they arent' feeling bad enough about their children or themselves as a parent.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>Don't let it get to you. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: DarkRed"><strong>Day by day, one step at a time, on breath at a time. You will get past this stage......</strong></span></p><p> <span style="color: DarkRed"><strong></strong></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 124451, member: 393"] [COLOR=DarkRed][B]You're in a tough situation, sweetie. There's really no right or wrong way to do this. For me it came down to ....which came first the chicken or the egg?.... Well, I had 2 pretty looney chickens on my hands with no diagnosis & a lot of pretty outrageous & at times, dangerous behaviors. Having said that, I didn't have time to "wait out" the diagnosis & all the testing involved to get there. I had a husband, a home, a job (albeit pretty part time) & a family on my hands. The world could not shut down waiting for that diagnosis. Of course I used the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene; pulled what I could use with the tweedles & put that into play here. With that I mixed in Parenting with Love & Logic (one of the most recommended for children with attachment/adoption issues) & things settled even more. Not that we were walking on a bed of roses but at least we had a firm bed time (or room time) establised, medications taken - no questions asked & a firm rule in place for physical, verbal, emotional aggression or abuse. Everything else was, like finding the diagnosis, a work in progress & remains so until this day. I'm here to tell you - we've been through countless medications; countless diagnosis's. It all came down to the psychiatrist, his specialty & his comfort level treating certain illnesses, disorders & syndromes. While a neuropych evaluation is a wonderful tool - there are times it's a bust. wm's last neuropsychologist evaluation could have been flushed down the toilet given wm's lack of cooperation, his trying to control the administrators of the evaluation & his outright meltdowns because he didn't want to do this again. After the first hour each day the evaluation was stopped & finally cancelled on the 3rd day. Then wm wanted to go back because of the prizes at the end of each day. Jen, thoughout this entire journey, we're flying by the seats of our pants. We may be working with a viable diagnosis, we may not. I look at what is working for kt or wm. If it's working - let's keep going, even if the psychiatrists & their ilk are calling it pregnancy. Don't give a hoot anymore. If it's not working - let's do more research & find another word for pregnancy. I'm sorry the school is giving you such a difficult time. They have their time constraints & federal/state reports they must fill out to justify this & that, yada, yada yada . Also there is that "self importance" to throw in a parent's face, just in case they arent' feeling bad enough about their children or themselves as a parent. Don't let it get to you. Day by day, one step at a time, on breath at a time. You will get past this stage...... [/B][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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