Hi, i need some ideas bigtime. difficult child is having major social issues. yes it is a work in progress at this point. have appointment. with dr. on tuesday night to discuss medication's again since thorazine wans't an option for me. am waiting on call back from a therapist that i want her to see. we stopped the last therapist dr. my ex and i felt that she was way way too passive. difficult child spent several mos just drawing pictures with absolutely no communication, there were no ideas given on how to handle stuff with difficult child, and therapist eventually said she wasn't comfortable handling difficult child without a pyschdoc on board (was looking for current pyshdoc at that time). anyway that's not the point she's gone, was no help at all. so soon we should have therapist in place and medication. i do not want to medicate i am afraid it will affect her theater class she is in now, as well as her sleep iv'e gotten down pat for now with the natural stuff, and also there's enough good there to work with as of late. yet this social anxiety issue is climaxing yet again due to certain factors. difficult child made two friends in this school, it's her 2nd year in it. she made them because they were in her anxiety class last year that she attended in school. without that small setting of 5 girls it wouldnt' of happened. i set up play dates and made contact as soon as she mentioned the two girls names, yet now those two girls have alot of other friends and quite honestly are getting tired of hanging out with difficult child who talks to no one but them. so difficult child is now alone in playground again at recess, feeling lost, running to nurse with severe anxiety attacks, isn't eating except for few bites of crackers so it's heightening once again. she began hysterical crying tonight at bedtime, she hasn't done this in a while. she said what do i do? i have no friends at school my two friends don't want to bother with me anymore and i'm scared and alone and i can feel my heart beating through my chest when i'm at lunch or in the playground. i feel so sick so i run to the nurse and she helps me calm down i spend recess with her and then i go back to class. so, tell me what to do mom. we have tried in therapy and at home role reversals to teach her how to communicate to people she doens't adhere and wont' do it, i've tried buddy system at school asked teacher to pair her with an outgoing kid who only wound up calling her a freak, i've tried various approaches, i've even gone as far as to make sure that her clothes are exactly waht she likes so she feels very comfortable more than just ok wear this today but making sure material is what she likes she has sensory issues, spend time making her exactly what she wants even if it means refixing it in the car after parking out in front of school. so is this where i am now with this? her social anxiety is so so bad. she lost her two friends as of late and now here we are again it's almost like boom brand new bldg. brand new school, new kid syndrome. she's expecting some kind of answer from me over breakfast tomorrow morning and i don't have one for her. i had to give her something to hold onto so she'd go to bed for me and not cry all night and get worse. yet i have no idea what to tell her. i can feel my anxiety escalate when i get upset from hearing her be upset i do not dare ever get upset or cry infront of her yet it builds i'm soo soo sick of this. ok thanks for letting me vent and any ideas you can think of i'd love to hear them. at this point i hate to do the avoidance thing i'm thinking of picking her up for lunch tomorrow so she doen'st have to feel that way i know that's bad.