Hello, Im the farther of 3 kids, My oldest son is 8, my daughter is 7 and the youngest boy is 3. My First son was diagnose with ADHD, other than some focus issues hes a very good boy. Doctors recommended medication for him, me and my wife decided to focus on structure and a lot of guidance to help him through school. It has been working wonderfully. We study hard together and enforce rules and reward systems. Were very proud of his accomplishments. My Daughter has no issues. Shes sometimes gets bored in school. She is a straight 4 (A) student. Smarts as they come and very creative. Perfect little girl. Heres the issue.. My Son Devin is a very spirited child. He always wants to have things his way no matter what. Hes destructive to his older brother and sisters things. And when he troughs a tantrum he is violent and destructive. He will toss anything he can reach and toss it with intent to break something. He tried to hit me or his mother and scream things we dont allow out children to say like..SHHHUUUT UPPPPP..Over and over at me. Kicking and scratching can last up to 10 to 20 minutes. Then out of nowhere, he'll say "OK Im done can I come down now, or play the game." or whatever we tried to redirect him to do before the tantrum. Where at the point we wont bring him out anywhere. If we try to contain him in anyway. Car set, stroller, pick him up..he will lose it where ever we are. Last week at downtown Disney I had to stroll him back to the car while he tried to hit me kicking and screaming Shut up Dad at the top of his lungs. I was so embarrassed and couldnt believe that this was my kid. I could feel the glares of other parents and herd my kid would never bla bla bla as I tried to quickly stroll by. He has been diagnoses with ODD. It really scares me because it effects my other 2 kids. They are often caught in the storm with Devin. So they always seem to be the ones that miss out. Or are stuck in the car with him screaming. Or getting there room destroyed because he likes to break their stuff. Or just missing out because we are tending to Devin because hes such a handful sometimes. I will say, hes a good boy otherwise. Very bright and caring. Love's to dance, speed stack cups, run, jump and play sports, but also like to sit and watch shows. I dont think hes ADHD, but this ODD really scares me. Redirection works sometimes but not often. We cant give him medicine(cough or fever) at all or take him to an event. Its really effecting our family. Im totally lost here, theres not much I can do. Any Advice?