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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 376226" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hi Ash, welcome!</p><p> </p><p>When I read the subject heading, I thought you were asking if there were any parents who were actually ODD. I was going to reply, I'm not usually ODD, except when I have PMS. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>My son is an Aspie and has issues with-anxiety. One thing I do, before we go on a vacation for example, is to look online for the condo or hotel where we are staying and bring up the pictures. A lot of real estate now has virtual tours. I would show him the rooms and he'd ask which one was his, etc. It has really, really helped.</p><p> </p><p>In regard to school, I'm sure you've brought your son to kindergarten b4 school actually starts, to show him the rooms, halls, bathrooms, teachers, etc.</p><p>You can do the same thing with a restaurant. This is something that many parents do even with-"regular" kids, to keep them from leaving the table with-o permission and wandering around. It satisfies their curiosity and in your son's case, his fear.</p><p> </p><p>When I take my son places b4 the actual event, I don't berate him and say, "We're going the day b4 so you don't freak out tomorrow." That's just asking for an ODD explosion. I just say, "Because I decided that's what we're going to do. Let's go. Get your shoes on." No more discussion.</p><p>Kids like rules. It makes them feel secure. Yes, even ODD kids like rules. Mostly, they like consistency.</p><p> </p><p>What sort of dr diagnosis'd your son? ODD is more of a description of a behavior, by the way. It's not a diagnosis. The diagnosis would be more like anxiety, which could have genetic components, or situational and behavioral components. </p><p> </p><p>I'm guessing that your son argues because it makes him feel more in control. Instead of automatically saying "No," when he argues, you could try saying, "That's a really interesting point. What makes you say that?" Eventually you'll have to prove him wrong (my son is so ODD he once argued that potatoes were wheat, and that I couldn't possibly know anything about Dr. Martin Luther King because I was the wrong age. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/laugh.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":laugh:" title="laugh :laugh:" data-shortname=":laugh:" /></p><p> </p><p>I've gotta laugh at some of it ...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 376226, member: 3419"] Hi Ash, welcome! When I read the subject heading, I thought you were asking if there were any parents who were actually ODD. I was going to reply, I'm not usually ODD, except when I have PMS. :raspberry-tounge: My son is an Aspie and has issues with-anxiety. One thing I do, before we go on a vacation for example, is to look online for the condo or hotel where we are staying and bring up the pictures. A lot of real estate now has virtual tours. I would show him the rooms and he'd ask which one was his, etc. It has really, really helped. In regard to school, I'm sure you've brought your son to kindergarten b4 school actually starts, to show him the rooms, halls, bathrooms, teachers, etc. You can do the same thing with a restaurant. This is something that many parents do even with-"regular" kids, to keep them from leaving the table with-o permission and wandering around. It satisfies their curiosity and in your son's case, his fear. When I take my son places b4 the actual event, I don't berate him and say, "We're going the day b4 so you don't freak out tomorrow." That's just asking for an ODD explosion. I just say, "Because I decided that's what we're going to do. Let's go. Get your shoes on." No more discussion. Kids like rules. It makes them feel secure. Yes, even ODD kids like rules. Mostly, they like consistency. What sort of dr diagnosis'd your son? ODD is more of a description of a behavior, by the way. It's not a diagnosis. The diagnosis would be more like anxiety, which could have genetic components, or situational and behavioral components. I'm guessing that your son argues because it makes him feel more in control. Instead of automatically saying "No," when he argues, you could try saying, "That's a really interesting point. What makes you say that?" Eventually you'll have to prove him wrong (my son is so ODD he once argued that potatoes were wheat, and that I couldn't possibly know anything about Dr. Martin Luther King because I was the wrong age. :funny: I've gotta laugh at some of it ... [/QUOTE]
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