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<blockquote data-quote="awhitman" data-source="post: 354164"><p>i know exactly what you mean by the system penalizes you when you call the authorities. </p><p> </p><p>my son got in trouble with the law and the first thing they did after we had to go to court twice -was make me pay for anger management classes -which were a joke . the only thing that did was cost me several hundred dollars that i definately did not have. </p><p> </p><p>then he got in trouble again and was ordered to go to school every day and never miss a day. which he never did anyways but now he was ordered to go, so if he didnt go it was my fault and i went to jail. also he was ordered not to be tardy, if he was tardy it would be my fault and i could go to jail. </p><p> </p><p>after more court appearances which i had to work my schedule around he was ordered to not have any contact with girls of any age or boys over 18 years old and guess what? if it was found that this order was not kept-even if he did it without my permission while i was asleep it was my fault and i was held accountable and would be charged and could go to jail. </p><p> </p><p>and lets not forget about taking him to community service and making sure all the papers were filled out because if the paper is lost they refuse to give you another one so you cant let the kid have it because its your responsibility to make sure he is doing community service and you have to prove that you made an effort to take him to the community service or guess what? you get in trouble. you could go to jail. </p><p> </p><p>and the last and most wonderful part of all. you have to also work your schedule around getting him to see a probation officer whom you have to pay every week to have the joy of seeing. and really the meeting is all about you. how is daniel doing? he was abusive to you? oh you have to report that to the police because that means he is not following the judge's orders, you didnt report that? oh thats bad because now YOU are in violation of the court and now YOU are in trouble. </p><p> </p><p>I had to get my son an educational assesment and a psychological evaluation lined up or guess what? i would go to jail. i had plenty of juvenille authorities that were on my back like a monkey trying to convince the judge that i was not a good mother </p><p> </p><p>because when your child gets in trouble/they get an attorney, they get a guardian ad litum they have dept of childrens services workers, they have probation officers. all these people are assembled FOR YOUR CHILD. not for you. you are the easiest one to point a finger at. </p><p> </p><p>you ask for help, they ask for your money, your time, and they attempt to take all you have and then blame you, charge you, take your kid and leave you exhausted , frustrated, angry and bewildered. and if you have more that one child they will attempt to take all your children.</p><p> </p><p> thats my experience with the messed up legal system.SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!! But seriously, im sorry about your son. i thought my son was bad but it sounds like your son is really a handful. i dont know how you do it. you are truely a warrior!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="awhitman, post: 354164"] i know exactly what you mean by the system penalizes you when you call the authorities. my son got in trouble with the law and the first thing they did after we had to go to court twice -was make me pay for anger management classes -which were a joke . the only thing that did was cost me several hundred dollars that i definately did not have. then he got in trouble again and was ordered to go to school every day and never miss a day. which he never did anyways but now he was ordered to go, so if he didnt go it was my fault and i went to jail. also he was ordered not to be tardy, if he was tardy it would be my fault and i could go to jail. after more court appearances which i had to work my schedule around he was ordered to not have any contact with girls of any age or boys over 18 years old and guess what? if it was found that this order was not kept-even if he did it without my permission while i was asleep it was my fault and i was held accountable and would be charged and could go to jail. and lets not forget about taking him to community service and making sure all the papers were filled out because if the paper is lost they refuse to give you another one so you cant let the kid have it because its your responsibility to make sure he is doing community service and you have to prove that you made an effort to take him to the community service or guess what? you get in trouble. you could go to jail. and the last and most wonderful part of all. you have to also work your schedule around getting him to see a probation officer whom you have to pay every week to have the joy of seeing. and really the meeting is all about you. how is daniel doing? he was abusive to you? oh you have to report that to the police because that means he is not following the judge's orders, you didnt report that? oh thats bad because now YOU are in violation of the court and now YOU are in trouble. I had to get my son an educational assesment and a psychological evaluation lined up or guess what? i would go to jail. i had plenty of juvenille authorities that were on my back like a monkey trying to convince the judge that i was not a good mother because when your child gets in trouble/they get an attorney, they get a guardian ad litum they have dept of childrens services workers, they have probation officers. all these people are assembled FOR YOUR CHILD. not for you. you are the easiest one to point a finger at. you ask for help, they ask for your money, your time, and they attempt to take all you have and then blame you, charge you, take your kid and leave you exhausted , frustrated, angry and bewildered. and if you have more that one child they will attempt to take all your children. thats my experience with the messed up legal system.SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!! But seriously, im sorry about your son. i thought my son was bad but it sounds like your son is really a handful. i dont know how you do it. you are truely a warrior! [/QUOTE]
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