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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 354325" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>its not a huge secret of how i feel about all of these "overlapping" symptomologies and how its a carpshoot as to which diagnosis the professional of the hour feels like assigning them to....</p><p> </p><p>but like marg, we have ruled in, ruled out, ruled in, ruled out spectrum issues for the last 11 years. as a matter of fact, our current team of professionals are very split over it at the moment.</p><p>mine also doesnt meet the criteria completely, so those that choose to follow the DSM rule it out. those that are in the camp that the DSM is flat out wrong feel its an appropriate label. (couldnt make it up if i tried).</p><p> </p><p>so. </p><p>(this is not meant as advice, so please do what YOUR gut tells you to do!!!)</p><p> </p><p><em>my</em> gut is who gives a rats patoot about the actual "label". the only thing (for <em>us</em>, many will disagree!) we are interested in at this point is identifying the symptoms, ferretting out any reasons behind the symptoms, and treating the symptoms appropriately. period. some symptoms need modifications/accomodations, some need theraputic intervention, some flat out need medications. the only real reason i'd be a proponent of a "label" is if it get you some kind of specialized help or services that you couldnt other wise obtain.<strong> LOTS of people disagree with my philosophy</strong>, but its <em>my</em> perspective.</p><p> </p><p>neuropsychologist testing may help you pinpoint underlying causes that are impacting your child. it can be a good informational tool and then you can use that information to further help your child.</p><p> </p><p>therapy can also be a great tool, for all of you. a good therapist can work with you to develop strategies to deal with your child. (notice i said good!) it might take a bit to find the right fit for your family, but try to keep an open mind about it. sometimes help comes in some strange forms.</p><p> </p><p>i'm sorry for you--how overwhelmed you feel comes through loud and clear. its disgraceful that the current psychiatrist is putting the onus back on the "family dynamic"...and it happens way too often.</p><p> </p><p>behaviors usually serve <em>some</em> function...if your difficult child is melting down at home it could be anything from feeling safe enough to do it after holding it together all day, or a direct result of some frustration (probably one that even HE doesnt know), or some other unidentified reason. if you havent already, i'd highly reccomend you journal specifically whats happening to look for ANY pattern. it can be simple....since i'm, umm, lazy and forgetful? lol, i use my daily calender....i might jot down a word or too--nothing elaborate, but its probably be the single most helpful thing i've done. for example, i can now say, without a shadow of a doubt, that a specific activity is a major trigger....and lucky for me, testing identified a related skill as a legitimate deficit, so i'm able to confidently say that oh no, this is not a random ODD-like behavior, its a direct result of a specific disability. but had i not kept track, i'm not even so sure she would would have been tested to look for this underlying cause. i'd even go so far as to include outside factors---meltdown moment....did he just have a snack? any sleep disturbances that day? under the weather? (you get the idea). while it might sound farfetched, who knows what patterns it may turn up....you may find something off the wall like rages are triggered shortly after watching spongebob and eating cheese...so then it would be worthwhile to investigate if your difficult child is overstimmed by the color yellow and has a dairy allergy....ROFL, i know that was about as goofy as an example as i could make.</p><p> </p><p>i hope today is a better day for you.......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 354325, member: 8831"] its not a huge secret of how i feel about all of these "overlapping" symptomologies and how its a carpshoot as to which diagnosis the professional of the hour feels like assigning them to.... but like marg, we have ruled in, ruled out, ruled in, ruled out spectrum issues for the last 11 years. as a matter of fact, our current team of professionals are very split over it at the moment. mine also doesnt meet the criteria completely, so those that choose to follow the DSM rule it out. those that are in the camp that the DSM is flat out wrong feel its an appropriate label. (couldnt make it up if i tried). so. (this is not meant as advice, so please do what YOUR gut tells you to do!!!) [I]my[/I] gut is who gives a rats patoot about the actual "label". the only thing (for [I]us[/I], many will disagree!) we are interested in at this point is identifying the symptoms, ferretting out any reasons behind the symptoms, and treating the symptoms appropriately. period. some symptoms need modifications/accomodations, some need theraputic intervention, some flat out need medications. the only real reason i'd be a proponent of a "label" is if it get you some kind of specialized help or services that you couldnt other wise obtain.[B] LOTS of people disagree with my philosophy[/B], but its [I]my[/I] perspective. neuropsychologist testing may help you pinpoint underlying causes that are impacting your child. it can be a good informational tool and then you can use that information to further help your child. therapy can also be a great tool, for all of you. a good therapist can work with you to develop strategies to deal with your child. (notice i said good!) it might take a bit to find the right fit for your family, but try to keep an open mind about it. sometimes help comes in some strange forms. i'm sorry for you--how overwhelmed you feel comes through loud and clear. its disgraceful that the current psychiatrist is putting the onus back on the "family dynamic"...and it happens way too often. behaviors usually serve [I]some[/I] function...if your difficult child is melting down at home it could be anything from feeling safe enough to do it after holding it together all day, or a direct result of some frustration (probably one that even HE doesnt know), or some other unidentified reason. if you havent already, i'd highly reccomend you journal specifically whats happening to look for ANY pattern. it can be simple....since i'm, umm, lazy and forgetful? lol, i use my daily calender....i might jot down a word or too--nothing elaborate, but its probably be the single most helpful thing i've done. for example, i can now say, without a shadow of a doubt, that a specific activity is a major trigger....and lucky for me, testing identified a related skill as a legitimate deficit, so i'm able to confidently say that oh no, this is not a random ODD-like behavior, its a direct result of a specific disability. but had i not kept track, i'm not even so sure she would would have been tested to look for this underlying cause. i'd even go so far as to include outside factors---meltdown moment....did he just have a snack? any sleep disturbances that day? under the weather? (you get the idea). while it might sound farfetched, who knows what patterns it may turn up....you may find something off the wall like rages are triggered shortly after watching spongebob and eating cheese...so then it would be worthwhile to investigate if your difficult child is overstimmed by the color yellow and has a dairy allergy....ROFL, i know that was about as goofy as an example as i could make. i hope today is a better day for you....... [/QUOTE]
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