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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 239377" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>No, Fran, he has not been involved with daughter people at all. Truthfully these are all the steps we have been guided to and completed:</p><p> </p><p>1. Inquiry about services available initiated by DDD.</p><p>2. Appointment #1...like a meet and greet with a brochure handed to us</p><p>and more or less read to us that has the steps for VR.</p><p>3. Appointment #2...reiteration of #1 and told that since VR is part of the Department of Education that with a signature all info would be reviewed to help focus on a goal.</p><p>4. Appointment #3...reiteration of #1 and #2 and #3. New?? Question to difficult child "What would you like to do after graduation?" difficult child replies I would like to go to medical school and become a Doctor. DDD thinks "OMG" but stays quiet. VR counselor says "That's a wonderful goal." DDD thinks OMG! VR counselor says "how do you two think we could help difficult child at this time?" difficult child says I want to learn how to drive. VR counselor says "Oh, you don't know how to drive?" difficult child says "I know how but I can't do it without making people nervous and almost crashing." VR says "oh, my".</p><p>I jump in and say "perhaps your department could locate someone who could ride with difficult child so he gets driving experience without the nervousness</p><p>of having a family member in the car?" VR lady says "I'll write that down in his file. I don't think so, though, because we have never done that before." When she asks "anything else", I reply "difficult child needs social interaction as his social skills are poor. Is there access to a social skills group through VR? Is it possible to have a mentor to help with social skills before he graduates?" We'll talk next meeting, replies VR lady. Yikes!</p><p>5. Next appointment. More regurgitation of previous. Vague No responses to the two suggestions or requests but the cavaet that difficult child MUST have a full evaluation before trying to set goals.</p><p>6. Four days of evaluation and then the report that stipulates difficult child did not show up for a meeting he was told to attend the day after the evaluation was through. (difficult child didn't "get" that there was a meeting and I was not contacted.) Report included totally nuts results that anyone would have known to be bogus. On the last day the evaluator told him "you can leave as soon as you are through" and difficult child was eager to go to his Moms house.</p><p>He sped thru the tests that showed he was on a lst or 2nd grade level in some areas. That was accepted as valid by the evaluator. difficult child at that time had over a 3 point average which included algebra. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /></p><p>7. After review of the report and taking a couple of days to chill I wrote</p><p>my response to the totally faulty report and called the VR counselor to tell her that I had written a response to prevent faulty info being part of his permanent file. She responded "oh, I think you did the right thing".</p><p>8. We have had three phone calls since then. Each time she tells me that "difficult child is now at the top of the list for services which is surprising"</p><p>(I assume due to my letter???) "we need to move on to the next step"</p><p>..................and then NO next step or list of possible next steps.</p><p> </p><p>Now she's chapped off because difficult child doesn't have any social skills and hung up the phone on her as she repeated all the above with no info.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure whether to independently search for help via the Autism route, via my own gut, or hope that they get on the ball. This is so frustrating as difficult child is on a lower functioning level already after living with his Mom. It will be sad if he just slips through the fingers of the VR and ends up bringing in bucks to his Moms house with no future. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/anxious.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":anxious:" title="anxious :anxious:" data-shortname=":anxious:" /> DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 239377, member: 35"] No, Fran, he has not been involved with daughter people at all. Truthfully these are all the steps we have been guided to and completed: 1. Inquiry about services available initiated by DDD. 2. Appointment #1...like a meet and greet with a brochure handed to us and more or less read to us that has the steps for VR. 3. Appointment #2...reiteration of #1 and told that since VR is part of the Department of Education that with a signature all info would be reviewed to help focus on a goal. 4. Appointment #3...reiteration of #1 and #2 and #3. New?? Question to difficult child "What would you like to do after graduation?" difficult child replies I would like to go to medical school and become a Doctor. DDD thinks "OMG" but stays quiet. VR counselor says "That's a wonderful goal." DDD thinks OMG! VR counselor says "how do you two think we could help difficult child at this time?" difficult child says I want to learn how to drive. VR counselor says "Oh, you don't know how to drive?" difficult child says "I know how but I can't do it without making people nervous and almost crashing." VR says "oh, my". I jump in and say "perhaps your department could locate someone who could ride with difficult child so he gets driving experience without the nervousness of having a family member in the car?" VR lady says "I'll write that down in his file. I don't think so, though, because we have never done that before." When she asks "anything else", I reply "difficult child needs social interaction as his social skills are poor. Is there access to a social skills group through VR? Is it possible to have a mentor to help with social skills before he graduates?" We'll talk next meeting, replies VR lady. Yikes! 5. Next appointment. More regurgitation of previous. Vague No responses to the two suggestions or requests but the cavaet that difficult child MUST have a full evaluation before trying to set goals. 6. Four days of evaluation and then the report that stipulates difficult child did not show up for a meeting he was told to attend the day after the evaluation was through. (difficult child didn't "get" that there was a meeting and I was not contacted.) Report included totally nuts results that anyone would have known to be bogus. On the last day the evaluator told him "you can leave as soon as you are through" and difficult child was eager to go to his Moms house. He sped thru the tests that showed he was on a lst or 2nd grade level in some areas. That was accepted as valid by the evaluator. difficult child at that time had over a 3 point average which included algebra. :surprised1: 7. After review of the report and taking a couple of days to chill I wrote my response to the totally faulty report and called the VR counselor to tell her that I had written a response to prevent faulty info being part of his permanent file. She responded "oh, I think you did the right thing". 8. We have had three phone calls since then. Each time she tells me that "difficult child is now at the top of the list for services which is surprising" (I assume due to my letter???) "we need to move on to the next step" ..................and then NO next step or list of possible next steps. Now she's chapped off because difficult child doesn't have any social skills and hung up the phone on her as she repeated all the above with no info. I'm not sure whether to independently search for help via the Autism route, via my own gut, or hope that they get on the ball. This is so frustrating as difficult child is on a lower functioning level already after living with his Mom. It will be sad if he just slips through the fingers of the VR and ends up bringing in bucks to his Moms house with no future. :anxious: DDD [/QUOTE]
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