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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 270590" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>My exhusband has primary physical custody of our son now and has had it since we separated in Sept. 2004. My goal was to be able to have my son live with me and his sisters (we share joint legal custody of all three) but my son's past behavior was too disobedient and sometimes even physically aggressive toward me and his younger sister. He doesn't threaten any kind of violence or vandalism toward me or my property any longer (after I've called the police twice on him and marched him in front of a judge), he just attempts to verbally wear me down until I capitulate.</p><p> </p><p>Funny, Star, but I guess I've gotten so used to the emotional and mental abuse by my ex that I fail to recognize it anymore. A job would be the best thing (I haven't worked outside the home in a long time, haven't worked for a business that my ex didn't own for over 20 years) and I should be looking, but I feel so worn down I can't myself to even complete my resume -- and it's got a huge gap in it from being a stay at home mom for 20 years. I didn't look for a job when we first separated on the advice of my lawyer, who thought I would get screwed on alimony and child support by my wheeler-dealer ex (who is a CPA and specializes in protecting assets for his clients). The appeal my ex filed should be decided on by the fall, so by Christmas, I would say, I should know my financial future and be looking for a job and trying to sell off devalued real estate.</p><p> </p><p>In the meantime, while I'm treading water, my son is losing ground and I feel powerless to help him. </p><p> </p><p>I think your suggestion of contacting domestic abuse shelters is a good one. The local YWCA has a bunch of support groups for women in my position, I went for a while and dropped out Perhaps it's time to go back.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you for your thoughtful suggestions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 270590, member: 5941"] My exhusband has primary physical custody of our son now and has had it since we separated in Sept. 2004. My goal was to be able to have my son live with me and his sisters (we share joint legal custody of all three) but my son's past behavior was too disobedient and sometimes even physically aggressive toward me and his younger sister. He doesn't threaten any kind of violence or vandalism toward me or my property any longer (after I've called the police twice on him and marched him in front of a judge), he just attempts to verbally wear me down until I capitulate. Funny, Star, but I guess I've gotten so used to the emotional and mental abuse by my ex that I fail to recognize it anymore. A job would be the best thing (I haven't worked outside the home in a long time, haven't worked for a business that my ex didn't own for over 20 years) and I should be looking, but I feel so worn down I can't myself to even complete my resume -- and it's got a huge gap in it from being a stay at home mom for 20 years. I didn't look for a job when we first separated on the advice of my lawyer, who thought I would get screwed on alimony and child support by my wheeler-dealer ex (who is a CPA and specializes in protecting assets for his clients). The appeal my ex filed should be decided on by the fall, so by Christmas, I would say, I should know my financial future and be looking for a job and trying to sell off devalued real estate. In the meantime, while I'm treading water, my son is losing ground and I feel powerless to help him. I think your suggestion of contacting domestic abuse shelters is a good one. The local YWCA has a bunch of support groups for women in my position, I went for a while and dropped out Perhaps it's time to go back. Thank you for your thoughtful suggestions. [/QUOTE]
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