Will you allow me to pull out my hair for you?
AAARRRGGGHHH!!!
No one has sent us to an Occupational Therapist (OT) even though I have requested it just to be evaluated. He's had speech and language evaluation but one on one he does great its when he gets into the classroom he bombs.
Given that 50% of kids with ADHD also have Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) (developmental coordination disorder - motor skills issues, fine and/or gross)... chances of needing an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation are really high. As in - either way, you need to know. Even if you have to pay for the evaluation yourself, it is worth getting. Occupational Therapist (OT) cannot do dxes... but can write reports that are used by others, including psychiatrists, neuropsychs, and schools. (they also offer therapies that help, if you can afford it)
And then... what exactly was the Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluation testing for? If it was just for hearing and Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD), then they haven't done complete testing. There are
other APDs, and these are NOT being caught (just our own experience, plus talking to others...). APDs look like ADHD especially in the classroom. And the key words in your statement? "one on one he does great". Chances are... its something like a problem with auditory figure ground - what that means is that there is a problem with the filters in the brain that block out background noise. So... in a quiet room with just one person to listen to and no background noise... they do GREAT. And... get into a classroom, and they cannot "hear" a doggone thing, because classrooms are beyond belief for noise. The BEST classrooms are that way - the others are even worse. Teachers don't generally believe this... because they have normal hearing. They don't understand how noisy classroom activities are... rustling papers, scratches of pen/pencil on paper, shifting in seats, sighs, etc. WHITE NOISE. Its brutal. Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) normally does screening, then a referral is needed to specialist audiologist (not the hearing-aid-company ones) for complete testing and diagnosis. There are NO medications that have any impact on APDs. Accommodations help. Interventions help big time - like, personal FM systems, sometimes called auditory trainers.
I am tossing this out to you, not because this is
necessarily your child's problem... but because it was my child's problem... and not having it caught until high school meant that he was being literally driven to insanity by NOT having the diagnosis and NOT getting the accommodations and interventions and NOT being able to push back at teachers... We solved the REAL problem, and... the insanity started to fade.
Other things can drive kids over the brink, too... not just APDs and Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD). But perhaps, just perhaps, the real problem isn't a mental health issue. The questions are probably worth asking.