by judge for a custody battle? I am amazed at how invasive getting custody is when both sides are contesting. I wondered what the GAL does and who makes the final decision and what the poor child is asked. Little J. is incredibly bright, insightful and has a parrot-like memory and hates to be asked questions about either of his parents, although his recall and opinions are amazing for a five year old. Lots of uber-brilliant people in my family, especially the men, and seems like Little J. got that, but I'm not sure that's an asset in this case. He knows exactly what is going on and will talk about it to my son. But he is very shy with strangers. Another trait of our family genes. I feel so bad for little J. He didn't ask for a divorce or for mom to run off with another man and now she wants full custody/and wants son to have minimal parenting time and to pay more. She is trying to alienate grandson toward my son, but it won't work. One thing I can say for 35 is he loves his son to death and his son is well aware and clings to him every time he is together with little J. and his mom and her new honeybuns. Right now they have joint custody and fifty per cent parenting time each and my son is digging in his heels and has a good attorney to fight for his rights. Ex is nuttier than him, even on a bad day. I keep hearing around this GAL and how important she is. I'm not sure what kind of investigation she can do. She's a lawyer, not a social worker. Any feedback?