Star, you sound about the same size as my best friend. She's just begun a business making sexy leisure wear for larger ladies. I suggested she call it "Elegant Sufficiency". She chose something a bit more understated. But she's a classic example of how size doesn't stop you looking sexy.
I'm a bit slimmer these days (had to do something urgently - the doctor said I was heading for bypass surgery, and I didn't want surgery, so instead I ate as if I'd already had bariatric surgery). However, I still have to be careful about sunbaking nude at the beginning of summer. Last time, Greenpeace tried to roll me back in to the water. And one year all that white cellulite got mistaken for a bulk delivery of cottage cheese!
I wore heels to difficult child 1's wedding which was on a lawn by the beach, and found my shoes punching holes through the lawn with a nasty crunching feeling; I finally had to kick off my shoes and go barefoot. Like the bride.
So never toss out hope that you too could look fabulous in whatever boots you want.
Speaking of boots (now we've finally hijacked this thread) - have you seen a British-made film called "Kinky Boots"? It stars a good Aussie actor called Joel Edgerton. He has gorgeous wolf-like eyes. It's a great film to make you feel good about being different and to have courage to make change even when things look desperate. There's some great drag cabaret in it, too.
Marg