My sister texted me today, requesting that my daughter and I ea write intervention ltrs to her difficult child, who is 23 and addicted to pot, crystal meth and lord knows what else. difficult child has gone through treatment 3X, stayed clean for 2-3 wks, then fallen off the wagon. I called my sister because her cryptic text instructed easy child to send the ltrs separately, and I didn't realize that everyone was sending one; it sounded like easy child was supposed to write more than one. Anyway, I said, "What if difficult child doesn't open them?" "I've gone through every what-if scenario and this is what we are doing at this point." "So she's reading all these letters alone, with-no therapist?" "This is what we're doing at this point." "Wouldn't you rather have us fly up and do a real intervention?" "I've just gotten out of a mtng with-3 counselors and this is what we're going to do." "What prompted this particular idea?" "I took difficult child in for bloodwork, serotonin, dopamine, etc. (she's got anxiety issues and my sister had good luck a few yrs back with-therapy and regular medications) but the staff refused to even do blood draws when they saw that she was using, and how out of it she was." In fact, my sister said, "Her brain is mush." OMG, this is heartbreaking. My sister was the one who introduced me to Al Anon (along with-a few people here) and talked so much about detachment. And here she is, 2 wks after a major surgery, back at it again. And she's dragging us into it. I wouldn't mind if I thought it would do some good. In fact, I'm the one who offered to fly up. I told her I'd work on it this weekend, and talk to easy child in the car tomorrow (we're driving to Richmond to meet another difficult child, her soon-to-be 3rd roommate whose helicopter mom is introducing the girls, as though they're kindergartners. She told easy child that her daughter had an Learning Disability (LD) but she grew out of it. Yeah, right! Poor easy child. First, she's on her way to meet another roommate from h*ll, then I have to tell her about the ltr. The more I think about it, I think this is a crummy idea. Once difficult child opens the first ltr, she's going to know what the other ltrs are about. No one writes by snail mail anymore and she's going to chuck them all. Plus, it's going to tip her off that a "real" intervention is coming down the pike and she can rehearse her reaction and excuses.