Yes, it's the divorce saga again . Got a question. If my son forces J. to leave the house can J. withhold son from him since there is no divorce yet, in fact he hasn't even filed? What happens to the baby in between the time you file and the divorce goes through? I never went through this in my own divorce because I never thought to keep the kids away from their father, but J. would do this. Could she? Because of their work hours, she could easily get to the babysitter's before my son even if he told her to leave without her son (and pretend she did it. Lately she isn't much about her son---more about running around with her goofball sister). by the way, this is in Illinois if anyone is familiar with the state. Another quick question: If son left the house, is this bad? He was told never to leave the house first. The only issue why he hasn't filed for divorce is because of George, the fifteen month old. He doesn't want to be away from him. J. is getting worse, not working on the marriage at all, and pretty much doing what she wants, although he does not feel she is cheating on him (nor do I). My son wasn't an angel in this marriage, but he is doing all he can to better himself and make it work out. At this point, it seems he is the only one trying.