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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 213290" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Kidnapping is a bone of contention with me. In a sense this happened with Dude. Bio father took him, kept him, not because he was wanted, but because I did want him and it could/did make me miserable and a literal puppet. Even the local FBI and law enforcement said their hands were tied. When I got him back? I nearly died in doing so - I was tortured, raped, stabbed and beaten. I stuck to the "script" got my son, and got out. </p><p> </p><p>That part being over - the hell that we faced for years was more than I ever bargained for. I was scared of my own shadow, my son slept with a butcher knife under his pillow or between the bed and the wall hidden from anyone looking in the room, or in the closet floor covered with clothes. I slept very little for years - maybe 2-3 hours tops a night. Even shopping in a local grocery - a plastic bag blew behind me in the parking lot and I was sure it was him coming to get me and take Dude again. It was almost impossible for me to allow Dude out of our yard to go ride bikes like the normal kids - I was afraid a van would come by and it would be my x or his friends to take Dude. Every time your kids are late 10 minutes on curfew it's "I'm angry he's late again." when mine was late? It was "I'm a wreck - what could have happened. OH NO....etc." really hard to live with on top of having him be IN YOUR FACE when he DID get home. </p><p> </p><p>Most of our PTSD and Dudes severe PTSD have been addressed in therapy because of this man. It makes my head want to pop off literally to think of what he did to our son and yet still gets to breath air. It makes me want to implode silently when Dude brings up "I think I should talk to him just once." I simply pray that the man finds God and never finds us. </p><p> </p><p>So when things about kidnapping come up? It's a harder pill for me to swallow because of flash backs and the "things" that it did to my son - the things that he can't overcome. But to answer your question? I WOULD be the person in the crowd that would take the baby from BOTH people and dare anyone to bother us until the police got there. I know what it did to me, my son and how it still in some ways affects us today. </p><p> </p><p>I used to say - Most children fall asleep with teddy bears - mine went to sleep with a knife. It took me years to find the compassion to pray FOR his bio dad, because I figure - honestly - I could get my revenge, but when he has to face the almighty and answer for what he did to the beautiful family he was given EVEN after he had messed up his life? I think that will be better than anything I could do. </p><p> </p><p>If ever caught in a similar situation - Don't EVER EVER EVER allow the child to leave with ANYONE....call 911 and let the police sort it out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 213290, member: 4964"] Kidnapping is a bone of contention with me. In a sense this happened with Dude. Bio father took him, kept him, not because he was wanted, but because I did want him and it could/did make me miserable and a literal puppet. Even the local FBI and law enforcement said their hands were tied. When I got him back? I nearly died in doing so - I was tortured, raped, stabbed and beaten. I stuck to the "script" got my son, and got out. That part being over - the hell that we faced for years was more than I ever bargained for. I was scared of my own shadow, my son slept with a butcher knife under his pillow or between the bed and the wall hidden from anyone looking in the room, or in the closet floor covered with clothes. I slept very little for years - maybe 2-3 hours tops a night. Even shopping in a local grocery - a plastic bag blew behind me in the parking lot and I was sure it was him coming to get me and take Dude again. It was almost impossible for me to allow Dude out of our yard to go ride bikes like the normal kids - I was afraid a van would come by and it would be my x or his friends to take Dude. Every time your kids are late 10 minutes on curfew it's "I'm angry he's late again." when mine was late? It was "I'm a wreck - what could have happened. OH NO....etc." really hard to live with on top of having him be IN YOUR FACE when he DID get home. Most of our PTSD and Dudes severe PTSD have been addressed in therapy because of this man. It makes my head want to pop off literally to think of what he did to our son and yet still gets to breath air. It makes me want to implode silently when Dude brings up "I think I should talk to him just once." I simply pray that the man finds God and never finds us. So when things about kidnapping come up? It's a harder pill for me to swallow because of flash backs and the "things" that it did to my son - the things that he can't overcome. But to answer your question? I WOULD be the person in the crowd that would take the baby from BOTH people and dare anyone to bother us until the police got there. I know what it did to me, my son and how it still in some ways affects us today. I used to say - Most children fall asleep with teddy bears - mine went to sleep with a knife. It took me years to find the compassion to pray FOR his bio dad, because I figure - honestly - I could get my revenge, but when he has to face the almighty and answer for what he did to the beautiful family he was given EVEN after he had messed up his life? I think that will be better than anything I could do. If ever caught in a similar situation - Don't EVER EVER EVER allow the child to leave with ANYONE....call 911 and let the police sort it out. [/QUOTE]
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