I'm sorry I have not commented before this.
I hope you get the apartment. If you don't, or if the apt mgr seems 'on the fence', take him a disposable plate of homemade cookies or brownies. He may still say no, or the owner could, but if the apt mgr has any influence on the owner and they are undecided, sometimes a plate of homemade yummies makes quite a nice impression. Or some homemade chex mix or whatever.
Apartment hunting is the PITS, but PLEASE don't overstress yourself. If you absolutely need to stay another week or two, the mgr will likely have to formally evict you if you don't move. It isn't a good thing, and likely would show up on a credit check or check to see if you have any legal problems, but it could be some breathing room. Be sure to check your state laws because the notice of not renewing your lease will likely impact the amt of time the eviction will take.
You are doing really well. It has been an amazingly stressful month and you had to handle something that most people NEVER EVER EVER come close to handling. You did a fantastic job of handling it, and are still going. Most people would be curled up in the fetal position bawling their eyes out and begging for their mommy!
The doctor is probably very correct in that the paxil is the most probable cause for your symptoms. The most common medication related cause anyway. You may be surprised at how you feel once it has cleared your system. I hope focalin is helpful, but please be aware that it can also cause problems for those with bipolar. It is always a tightrope, trying to figure out what will help and what will make you worse and then figuring out how much will provide the most help with the fewest problems.
The decision to send easy child to go live with his father has to be one of the hardest choices of your life. Especially given his father's complete lack of support for his Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and other issues. PLEASE do not turn over the IEP stuff to him. It is complicated and he is a newbie and given that he seems to disagree with the diagnosis's, there is a good chance your son could end up really struggling in ways that don't need to happen. easy child has enough challenges as it is.
Not sure if this will help you, and/or help you communicate about the process with your ex, but I came across a fairly clear, understandable explanation of the IEP process, technicalities, and the rights and responsibilities of both the parents and the school during the IEP process. It might help your ex understand things and be a real help in the process. It is in Q&A form andI found it easy to navigate without having to read the entire thing.
http://www.disabilityrightsca.org/pubs/504001Ch04.pdf
A google search for "what happens to an IEP when you move within CA" gave some good info. Some of the clearest answers came from websites of law offices.
This is a brief summary of what happens:
"If you move to a different SELPA, the new school district must, without delay, provide a free appropriate public education (FAPE), including services comparable to those described in the IEP approved by the previous school district for up to 30 days. Within those 30 days, the new school district must either adopt the previous school district's IEP or develop and adopt a new IEP that provides a FAPE."
It comes from this website "http://www.tagrelaw.com/news/special-education-ieps-transfer/" and the site has a lot of information including the exact wording of the state and fed regulations regarding moving.
A SELPA is a Special Education Local Plan Area. I think these are only in CA, so I am not much help on that front.
Several sites urge you to get copies of your son's records, including his IEP, and to meet with the school before the move happens. The earlier the better as this gives the school time to read and understand the IEP and to arrange for the services and accommodations that he needs.
I hope some of this helps. You truly have had an incredible amount of stress over the last month or so (and plenty before then too!) and you are handling it all very well. I strongly doubt I would be able to handle it all as well as you are.