OMG, gotta vent so I don't blow... *** I called my mom on the way back from difficult child's parent/teacher conference - she wanted to know how it went. In the conversation, she made a comment about easy child 2 not going to summer school. I said yes, she was, and she explained what easy child 2 had told her... *** Background - 2 months ago, when easy child 2 was flunking social studies again, I talked to her mom. Her mom agreed that easy child 2 is behind in school. Even said she thinks the teachers have passed things, especially in reading, they shouldn't have - her book reports are hideous - you get NO info about the book from them because she can't pull out main ideas, main characters, etc. At the time, we knew she was reading a full grade level below where she should be. I asked her mom about summer school, and her mom wasn't going to send her to summer school cause "she didn't want to go". I told her easy child 2 didn't want to go to school ever, is that really an excuse? Her mom readily agreed and told me to sign her up. *** Well, now easy child 2's mom has told her if she got good grades the last 4 weeks of school, she doesn't have to go to summer school. And we hear this from MY MOM!!!!?!?!?! *** I am beyond TICKED. *** April 14th, husband and I requested another evaulation from school to get easy child help. Help that her mother has refused to let her have. We talked to easy child and told her this was gonna tick mom off, and things might get ugly, was she willing to stick up for herself, is this what she wanted? Yes, yes, she was. So we started the process. And now she's bargaining with mom to get out of summer school? *** I am so mad at easy child's mom. Her mother (easy child'c grandma) lives in her backyard and its no big deal if easy child goes to summer school or not to her, grandma takes care of easy child all the time, anyway, but my mommy doesn't take care of my whole life, if easy child 2 doesn't go to summer school, we gotta find a sitter for that HALF TIME SHE'S HERE, WHICH STARTS NEXT WEEK! And I am pretty darn angry with easy child 2. She wanted all this help, we stuck our necks out risking ticking off mom (which is a VERY big deal) and she's bargaining her way out of school. If she doesn't help herself, I don't think I'm willing to help her. I can barely help her, anyway. She's got Learning Disability (LD)'s that her mother won't address or let the school tutor her for. And I'm not a teacher, I don't really know HOW to help her. *** It makes me so angry cause here's a kid who is overweight and can't read because her mom doesn't see fit to do any different. DOING something would require someone get off their arse or spending extra time with dad (mom pulled her out of soccer cause dad went the games....). I am busting my trying to keep difficult child 2 from being like his non-functioning father, doing everything under the sun I can think of and then some, we just don't KNOW what to do for him. easy child has some minor learning disabilities - she can learn, she's willing, she just needs some different instruction, and they won't give it to her. OMG it makes me irate. *** PS - I called school and talked to her reading teacher. She tested at a 3.7 grade level on her last test, which was 2 months ago. She's going into the 6th grade!