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<blockquote data-quote="TiredSoul" data-source="post: 383252" data-attributes="member: 3930"><p>Thanks Timer Lady. I understand about picking my battles. The thing is, if we let him use the computer to play games all day - for the most part he will have an ok day. If we say no to anything or tell him to do something he doesn't want to (pick up stuff, take dishes into kitchen, etc.) then he will flip out. So if he is able to function ok - as long as we tip toe around and he gets his own way, then is it in his control and more of a discipline problem, or could there still be some underlying issue?</p><p></p><p>The psychiatrist makes me feel like we just aren't disciplining him properly. He asked me the question - so what is his consequence after he beats up his friend and then has a major meltdown which results in husband having to restrain him for an hour. My answer was - uh, well.... uh.... we are all traumatized and need to go lick our wounds so to speak, then when all the excitement has settled down and difficult child is calm and is able to function fine and I guess we don't punish him. The natural consequence of his action is he can't play with his friend anymore. Isn't that enough? Or are we supposed to then lecture him and punish him further? I just don't like someone sitting across from me thinking we are the ones screwing up. We've tried everything - we didn't set out to be crappy parents. The complete difficulty of parenting him has altered how we envisioned we would raise our son.</p><p></p><p>On a good note, he slept in his own bed all night last night! (he did that for the 15 days he took Intuniv and then once we stopped it, he went back to sleeping in my bed)</p><p></p><p>Have a good weekend!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TiredSoul, post: 383252, member: 3930"] Thanks Timer Lady. I understand about picking my battles. The thing is, if we let him use the computer to play games all day - for the most part he will have an ok day. If we say no to anything or tell him to do something he doesn't want to (pick up stuff, take dishes into kitchen, etc.) then he will flip out. So if he is able to function ok - as long as we tip toe around and he gets his own way, then is it in his control and more of a discipline problem, or could there still be some underlying issue? The psychiatrist makes me feel like we just aren't disciplining him properly. He asked me the question - so what is his consequence after he beats up his friend and then has a major meltdown which results in husband having to restrain him for an hour. My answer was - uh, well.... uh.... we are all traumatized and need to go lick our wounds so to speak, then when all the excitement has settled down and difficult child is calm and is able to function fine and I guess we don't punish him. The natural consequence of his action is he can't play with his friend anymore. Isn't that enough? Or are we supposed to then lecture him and punish him further? I just don't like someone sitting across from me thinking we are the ones screwing up. We've tried everything - we didn't set out to be crappy parents. The complete difficulty of parenting him has altered how we envisioned we would raise our son. On a good note, he slept in his own bed all night last night! (he did that for the 15 days he took Intuniv and then once we stopped it, he went back to sleeping in my bed) Have a good weekend! [/QUOTE]
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