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<blockquote data-quote="therese005us" data-source="post: 286859" data-attributes="member: 7416"><p>I agree with the survival mode. It's been 9 months since DS came home (wow! i can't believe it) the first month felt like a year, the second month felt like 3 years, and so on.... Now I just had to count how many months he's been home. It seems like he's never been away. I think i must have cried at least the first four months, if not more, every day, worn out, stressed out...Worrying about his drinking, drugs etc.... will I ever be able to trust him?</p><p> </p><p>What's changed? I'm not sure. But choosing your battles, comes to mind. I remember his psychiatrist told me that when he was fifteen. I find that when dealing with challenging cherubs, I can't change it all at once. so, I have to choose something which is manageable, and then move on, and on. </p><p> </p><p>Experience is a great teacher, and over the years I have been amazed at what I've had to deal with, how I've dealt with it, (good and bad) and then there is a sense of stepping back and looking to see how far I've come. </p><p>So, no, I don't think we're desensitising ourselves, we're just growing in experience, and settling; for there is no doubt, that our challenges are beyond the norms of stressful at times.</p><p> </p><p>I can't imagine not loving our children, no matter what they do. When DS left home at 15, it broke my heart; I felt as though I had failed him. DOCs were not supportive (it's a long, sad story) painting me as the baddie; that he was scared of. However, in the 3 1/2 years he was away, he never failed to text or phone several times a year. And where did he come when there was nowhere to go? </p><p>Sorry, I've rabbited on again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="therese005us, post: 286859, member: 7416"] I agree with the survival mode. It's been 9 months since DS came home (wow! i can't believe it) the first month felt like a year, the second month felt like 3 years, and so on.... Now I just had to count how many months he's been home. It seems like he's never been away. I think i must have cried at least the first four months, if not more, every day, worn out, stressed out...Worrying about his drinking, drugs etc.... will I ever be able to trust him? What's changed? I'm not sure. But choosing your battles, comes to mind. I remember his psychiatrist told me that when he was fifteen. I find that when dealing with challenging cherubs, I can't change it all at once. so, I have to choose something which is manageable, and then move on, and on. Experience is a great teacher, and over the years I have been amazed at what I've had to deal with, how I've dealt with it, (good and bad) and then there is a sense of stepping back and looking to see how far I've come. So, no, I don't think we're desensitising ourselves, we're just growing in experience, and settling; for there is no doubt, that our challenges are beyond the norms of stressful at times. I can't imagine not loving our children, no matter what they do. When DS left home at 15, it broke my heart; I felt as though I had failed him. DOCs were not supportive (it's a long, sad story) painting me as the baddie; that he was scared of. However, in the 3 1/2 years he was away, he never failed to text or phone several times a year. And where did he come when there was nowhere to go? Sorry, I've rabbited on again. [/QUOTE]
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