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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 286862" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>This is a good question. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure I would call where I am desensitized, rather just another stage of being the parent of a difficult child. Someone mentioned the stages of grief - I don't describe it as grief - I got over "mourning" not having a easy child years ago because in reality, I don't think it's fair to grieve too long - it stops the process of accepting your difficult child for who they are and moving on, at least in my opinion. </p><p> </p><p>It's kinda like working out. When you first begin to use a new machine at the gym, you can only take a little weight and few reps. But the more you go and workout, the more weight you add and the more reps you can do. It almost happens without thought; you just one day realize you've increased you weight and reps.</p><p> </p><p>Parenting my difficult child is kinda like that. At first, I was in shock, sore and sad all the time. But after a while, I began to get used to the judgement of others, the need to fight the school system, the calls from teachers, the trips to the therapist, the meltdowns, difficult child's idiosyncracies, the missing birthday party invitations, lack of a big circle of friends, the stress when in public (waiting for something to happen), the co$t of doctors and medications. I began to think that those things were just a part of my life. </p><p> </p><p>Instead of taking easy child to play practise that day, I took difficult child to the therapist. Instead of watching easy child in a music recitle, I was at school wrriting an IEP. It just became part of my life.</p><p> </p><p>Is it desensitized? I'm not sure.</p><p> </p><p>I do know that I am a better person for having my difficult child. I have become a better person and a better parent for having him. I wouldn't trade that boy for anything. As much as he is frustrating, he is funny and smart and loving and creative....the list goes on and on. I can't imagine not having him and him not being who he is.</p><p> </p><p>I think the word desensitized calls to mind a numbness of sorts. And I am in no way numb with difficult child; perhaps it's just semantics...</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 286862, member: 805"] This is a good question. I'm not sure I would call where I am desensitized, rather just another stage of being the parent of a difficult child. Someone mentioned the stages of grief - I don't describe it as grief - I got over "mourning" not having a easy child years ago because in reality, I don't think it's fair to grieve too long - it stops the process of accepting your difficult child for who they are and moving on, at least in my opinion. It's kinda like working out. When you first begin to use a new machine at the gym, you can only take a little weight and few reps. But the more you go and workout, the more weight you add and the more reps you can do. It almost happens without thought; you just one day realize you've increased you weight and reps. Parenting my difficult child is kinda like that. At first, I was in shock, sore and sad all the time. But after a while, I began to get used to the judgement of others, the need to fight the school system, the calls from teachers, the trips to the therapist, the meltdowns, difficult child's idiosyncracies, the missing birthday party invitations, lack of a big circle of friends, the stress when in public (waiting for something to happen), the co$t of doctors and medications. I began to think that those things were just a part of my life. Instead of taking easy child to play practise that day, I took difficult child to the therapist. Instead of watching easy child in a music recitle, I was at school wrriting an IEP. It just became part of my life. Is it desensitized? I'm not sure. I do know that I am a better person for having my difficult child. I have become a better person and a better parent for having him. I wouldn't trade that boy for anything. As much as he is frustrating, he is funny and smart and loving and creative....the list goes on and on. I can't imagine not having him and him not being who he is. I think the word desensitized calls to mind a numbness of sorts. And I am in no way numb with difficult child; perhaps it's just semantics... Sharon [/QUOTE]
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