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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 287061" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>This is a very good question...</p><p></p><p>I don't think that I would call it "desensitized" either. In my case, it's more like my shields are always up and on full power (think Star Trek). I maintain a significant distance from difficult child, both emotionally and physically.</p><p></p><p>I rarely visit difficult child at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or speak to him on the phone, or have very much contact with him at all, although I avidly read the daily reports and am in touch with the staff at least a few times a week to know how he's doing. husband does the heavy lifting as far as visits and maintaining contact.</p><p></p><p>Really, it's a matter of self-preservation. difficult child caused so much physical and emotional harm to me, Little easy child and Step D. husband as well, but somewhat less. And now he wants a close mother-son relationship just like we used to have, without ever acknowledging the damage he did. I'm not over it yet, and right now I'm not sure that I'll ever get there.</p><p></p><p>I suppose I am desensitized in that nothing Little easy child does really phases me. Potty-mouth, not putting his toys away, sneaking into the maple syrup...this stuff just doesn't even register. Even by NT standards it's mild. I correct it, but it certainly doesn't upset me in the slightest.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 287061, member: 3907"] This is a very good question... I don't think that I would call it "desensitized" either. In my case, it's more like my shields are always up and on full power (think Star Trek). I maintain a significant distance from difficult child, both emotionally and physically. I rarely visit difficult child at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or speak to him on the phone, or have very much contact with him at all, although I avidly read the daily reports and am in touch with the staff at least a few times a week to know how he's doing. husband does the heavy lifting as far as visits and maintaining contact. Really, it's a matter of self-preservation. difficult child caused so much physical and emotional harm to me, Little easy child and Step D. husband as well, but somewhat less. And now he wants a close mother-son relationship just like we used to have, without ever acknowledging the damage he did. I'm not over it yet, and right now I'm not sure that I'll ever get there. I suppose I am desensitized in that nothing Little easy child does really phases me. Potty-mouth, not putting his toys away, sneaking into the maple syrup...this stuff just doesn't even register. Even by NT standards it's mild. I correct it, but it certainly doesn't upset me in the slightest. [/QUOTE]
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